Why don't they want baby girls?

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Justin W

similar to the chinese culture boy children are more desired because they believe they can do more work .. i dont believe they have a one child per household policy but there may be stiff taxes for more than one .. was she from north or south korea? im assuming south right?

katta marie

so they could carry out the family name
&also be successful in owning the family business.

Its all a load of bs tho.

mischugenah

It's a cultural thing. When girls grow up, they get married and join their husband's family. When boys grow up, they get married but stay around to take care of their parents. So some families consider raising a girl to be a wasted effort. Especially if a couple feels they can only afford one child, they may give up a girl baby in hopes that next time they'll have a boy to take care of them in their old age and to carry on the family name.

Jennifer

when i was born hun my mother disowned mi and decided to put mi away in foster care for about 10 years, but my popz got mi out. im now 19 years old and i finally found my birth mother. i asked her y did she gave mi away she said that she never really wanted a daughter. it kills mi inside that my mother dosent want mi but i grew up and when i decide that when i have a baby ill prove to her that i will be a better mother than she will. but your friend her mother in the other hand probably gave her away cause her mother didnt really understood how to be a mother, she probably felt that she couldnt be able to give her daughter what she wanted so i dont know i hope she is healing like i am!!!

Bob K

well in ther country u want male because they can carry ur name on they have more oppurtunity like school and work wise girls are seen as kind of useless like they dont really have as much oppurtunity for job and school so u want male so he can work hard provide for u later in life its sad but world isnt perfect yet

lestermount

Things are changing. At one time it was important to have sons, but now it is thought to be important to have girls in Korea.
It is a cultural thing and you can not expect to understand how others feel since you were not raised and do not live in that society.
Many asians feel it is important to have a boy to support the family when the parents become old.
Your friend can not be sure why her parents gave her up, but she can be thankful that she has a loving family.
It is normal for your friend to want to meet her birth mother, but she should appreciate the mother who loved and took care of her.

goin gud!!!!!!

some people think that girls are burden. this is because, they think that guys would always stay with the parents til the end and help them while girls will have to marry someone and go with him. so these parents think 'why need to give birth to a girl child and bring it up while we won't have any use from it??? if it were a boy, the boy would do everything to help us in our old age' so.. they don't like girl child

Ladybeatle

Because men are more accepted and important in their culture. Sometimes in some families it is a disgrace to have a daughter - in know its weird.

near

Im not sure about korea in general but I know most of Asia if not all believes boys are better and more powerful even smarter then girls. Guys are treated much better in society and have more rights. It is considered lucky to have a boy to honor the family especially if it is first born. People will even treat the whole family better if the first born boy is very successful.

shushhhhhh

Since very long time ago, first son keeps the family generation going.
Daughters had no chance. Only sons get to have an education, being treated like they are the king. Daughters were only good for getting married, giving a birth to a baby BOY, cook dinner, laundry..
Oldest son took care of old parents, take care of younger siblings, get to take the all the will parents have.
My grand parents' generation are like this. They still want BOYS!
What i think about the situation with your bestfriend is that her biological mom couldn't keep her since her grand parents wanted a boy so that they could have someone to keep the generation.
People actually gave a birth until they had a son. it seems really ridiculous now but it's something cultural. it's not too bad right now but some grand parents seriously want some baby boys.

Reagan4312

Girls cant do work around the house and take on the family name. They are considered less helpful and more expensive! Its very sad :( Its also very bad in China!

good one

In Korean cultures, it is important to have a child-beating tradition but can only happen if they are boys to get the hwabyung culture moving on. It is successful.

Garboy

My understanding is that the cultural tradition in Korea and other Asian countries requires that the family of a bride pay a dowry to a groom's family. The weight of this obligation is often heavier than a family can bear. A male child would shift this obligation to his bride to be and result in some economic benefit to an otherwise impoverished family.
The strength of tradition and impoverished conditions may explain your friend's unfortunate plight.
Every baby girl is wanted and loved. You should have faith in that fact and believe that her mother is thinking of her every day with the yearning to be with her again.

Beetlejuice

Unwed pregnancy is dishonorable.
Girls can't carry the family name.
Same **** that makes any parent anywhere give a child away... could have been the timing in general.

Qi Yue

it's very common in India too.
they think that boy would rise up and can earn them more money and also brings his wife to their house. While they think that girls would just marry and go away giving her parents nothing except pain. that is the bad mentality which i totally oppose.

*tears*

.:brav3 h3art fighting!:.

Its not just in Korea, it happens everywhere around the world!
I'm a Korean female and I'm with my family, so is my female cousins...

To answer your question, females can't carry the name when you get married. But, you can keep your last name though, its optional...

Pancy

Her parents were afraid of the expenses they have to put on their girl studies and marriage.But the boy l suport them when they grow old.girl will go away wid her husband so al their money spent on her l b wasted.

alfalfa

Maybe they have birth restrictions in that country. I know that there are certain countries that allow you to abort girls but not if it's a boy because they think that girls don't have the ability to provide for their families. They expect boys to work and give them money. I don't know if Korea is like that though.

Gosip_Gangst3r

if thay gave her away for that then thay are 100% racist low lifes!

Kaycee

some one

Third world countries suck!!! child labor prefers boys than girls i guess. Its not her parents fault though. i would blame it on the social system of under developed countries.

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