Why is it easy for a person to hurt the one he loves most?

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Mike's Girl

someone who loves you will never hurt you purposely. it's just that sometimes we misunderstand things and so we read their actions or words wrong and we get hurt in the process. and we get hurt only because we care. only those that we care for could hurt us. if we don't care at all, why it should matter what they do (or not do)? hmmm, didn't i just hear this from somewhere??? LOL

jongbong

zzz... no... it's not easy at all. why? because... nature runs its course. hmmm... beer... zzz...

Chris

It's about how you perceive your reality. I mean, where are you right now: at a computer, in your living room, in your house, depressed, happy, in a marriage, in your mid life, in love. The answer is truly subjective to how you perceive yourself to your world, it's based on what you think of your role.

Sadly, we are never really satisfied. And that's a good thing because it gets us up in the morning to make money, or to clean our home, or motivates us to come up with new ideas. Many happy couples would have never met had they not been seeking satisfaction in life. The problem occurs when our need to be satisfied by those around us consumes us to the point where we blame others for not meeting the expectations that we randomly impose on them. Sadly, in a relationships the expectations we have for others are often based on our own needs, even if they could have positive effects for our spouse.

My wife sometimes wonders how she can give herself so completely to our relationship and yet be let down by me. The problem is that we inherintly have instinctively selfish reasons for doing what we do. While my wife belives she gives so much of herself, she does so only to fufill her own personal needs and expectations.

True love is when we give ourselves if only because we know it brings joy to those around us. And in true love, we accept that love, that expression of love, if only because we know it makes our spouse happy to give to us. We embrace in love in a manner that is self fufilling to eachother because we learn to love pleasing eachtoher. That's not the same as meetinging expectations because in receiving we must not look for what we want but for what our spouse is giving.

You are disappointed because you do not receive what you wish for, but in true love you must be willing to accept anything your spouse gives you. I'm sure you can think of a few things your spouse does that are intended to show his affection or love. But you may not appreciate his choice. In true love we must be willing to give with our heart, and receive because it came from our lovers heart.

Big P

Well, I don't want to hurt my Wife because I don't want to ruin what we have. She is a beautiful person and I don't want to be the one who would destroy her.
Besides, I would not take it very well if she was the one who is unfaithful. (not a good feeling)

Inday

MAYBE...just maybe, it's true but I do have a different explanation for it. Hear me out --- The one you love the most is usually the person who is always with you. And this constant closeness affords opportunities to get into each other's nerves. So wittingly or unwittingly, one would say something that would cause the other to be hurt (or most likely, just make "tampo"). It is in this sense that "it is easy for a person to hurt the one he loves most". And yes, you are correct too...some people just get too complacent and would assume that they could "bola" their way to being forgiven. Alas, some guys are like that!

Flavio B

Thats not all totally true...... if you fall to much to this person & gave your TRUST to early then be aware that this pesrson could give you totally Happiness or break your heart & fell into pieces. If that happens if you fall down....You can always get up & move foward with your heads up.

SNL

it is because he can't resist the temptation and shows how weak his character. it is NOT easy to hurt the one you love. if you love someone and i'm talking of a true love you cannot bear to hurt to one you love. it is like slicing a part of your heart if you hurt the one you love.

if someone keep on repeating the same mistake of hurting you, it's time to say bye-bye. hmmmmppp. good riddance!

ANTON D

well you may have something there

rein

yeah, i think so..

Kojak

I do not agree with your implied premise..... Someone who "loves" you does not hurt you on purpose.

They can hurt you accidentally because you expect more from them......you are more sensitive to them.....but a person who truly loves you, hurts them self before they hurt you.
The people who would use your love as a weapon to manipulate and hurt you.....DO NOT LOVE YOU......they love themselves

Aref H4

Because we, men, can be idiots at times.

But we never mean it when we hurt the women we love. It's just that, perhaps, we never were aware of the hurt we could inflict, not appreciating that those we love may have made the world to revolve around us, and to ignore the little things that are there everyday for us, the way she arranges her hair, change into something more attractive, a happy word of greeting, just to please us.

Therefore, thanks for this Question. And henceforth, I shall be more careful not to hurt the ones I love, and be more considerate of their feelings.

Chibueze A

Because it is expected to be exitement all times, and because confronting one in his or her mistakes in a hash way are wrong, therefore, loved ones are hurt to the atmost. But, hurting a loved one because he or she often forgives then that's no love.

â„¦ allan y

yes, i believe so too.

NIX

I am sorry but I do not agree with that statement, because if you truly love someone, it will also break you if you hurt the one you love.

Although, I think this statement refers more to the fact that a little mistake can truly tear apart the person who was being betrayed - they "easily" get hurt.

If you are in a relationship or someone you know is in a relationship where the other half finds it "easy" to 'hurt' the other, then its about time that they re-evaluate things...

Charm

i like Aref H4's answer,smile...

jazzmyn M

because he a ***** all ****** afraid of committment they are afraid that you would beat them to it theydont wanna get hurt

Roo

Hmmm...for you to even to love someone, you need to know more than his/ her name. When you love someone, you naturally know a good deal about him/ her. So i guess, they're the easiest to hurt since you know enough to use against them, though of course not always on purpose.

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