Mum moving to Auz and i don't want to...?

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Charlie

Since your parents are divorced, which one has court-ordered custody of you? Or, if they have court-ordered shared custody, doesn't the divorce agreement prohibit one parent from taking you out of the country? This is usually the case. You need to know what the custody agreement says. Ask your Dad specifically what the divorce agreement says. He may need the help of his lawyer. If the divorce does not prohibit your mother from taking you out of the country, your father needs to get the help of his lawyer on this issue. Also, how old are you? Often, the law gives the child the choice of which parent to live with, esp. if you are over 14. If you cannot call your Dad from home, call him from somewhere else...talk to a counsellor at school and ask for help, or if you cannot find someone to help you any other way, walk into a lawyers office and tell them you need help, or call the local child welfare office...whatever it takes. There is no way your mother should be using you as a tool to hurt your father...and hurt you in the process. Good luck to you.

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You need to find out what their custody agreement is. If they have equal custody, your mother can NOT take you out of the state, or discontinue contact with your father. It is against the law. Ask your Dad specifically what the divorce agreement says. He may need the help of his lawyer though. Maybe talk to a school councellor for help?
Mind you, Australia is great! But, I can definately understand you not wanting to leave your father!

Power Flower

Oh dear, this sounds like a terrible situation for you to be in. You don't say how old you are, but it may come down to whoever has custody of you. I'd try ringing a legal advice line, or speaking to a school counsellor if you can't get hold of a phone. Good luck with it - it seems like you really need someone to mediate for you in this situation. It doesn't sound right that your mother's denying you father access to you.... but then we don't know the full story.

If you do end up coming to Australia I can tell you 100% for certain that you'll like it here. Australia is a fantastic place to live.

Curious Me

Hi :)

It's understandable you don't want to leave England, it's your home right. Like the others said, talk to your parents about what they can and can't do legally.

Just a little note to say that if you do decide to come to Australia, you'll love it, promise :) It really is a great place.

iansand9876

Parents who conduct their stoopit fights through the agency of their children should be ashamed of themselves.

yacht_moondust

Jay so sorry your being put through this - it is so wrong to involve you. Do you have a kids helpline in the UK? Ring them and seek some advice on how to deal with parents being painful! I would also suggest talking to your school counsellor or an Aunt or Uncle who you think isn't on one side or another - ask them to mediate for you.

It is often so hard to say what your feeling when your the kid in the middle so get an adult who isn't connected to the situation - You tell them in a quiet environment what YOU want, what YOU need and what YOU want to say. They can then approach both your parents and talk for you.

In the meantime - if either one of your parents says anything bad about the other - quietly tell them that you love them both and you don't want to hear bad things about the other and just walk away.

Like everyone else has said too - if you do come to Australia you will like it, it's a really great place.

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