Im 17 and a runaway.....................

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teufelskind

No she can not call the cops you are 17 and legally an adult!! Do not quite school you are doing great an A+ student even if you where a d student I would tell you not to give up.. Hang in there and stay strong!!

â˜®due september 11th with a girlâ˜®

Well, legally, you're still a minor, so you need to be with your parents. Also you can go to juvy for running away [if you are still considered a kid]. Even though you think she's not a fit mom, she IS your mom. You should call the police department and say what's goin on. Running away is kind of immature. I'm not saying that you're stupid or something BUT you should never run away to solve your problems. yea call the police department and say what's up.

Sorry about your situation... :-[

PS- In some states 17 is considered adult. If 18 is then, well, yea, you need to be with your parents.

Suggah

If your boyfriend is a legal age they can arrest him. Your a minor. Sorry you have to deal with that. FInish H.S. and go to college. Good Luck.

g g

you should call the cops on her. She needs to be reported to child safety affairs. If she calls on you, she will basically get herself in trouble.

The Lemur v1.03

Depends on teh state. She did tell you to go so what choice did you have though? In my state 17 is considered adult.

$h!tBird

If your boyfriend or his family are of age ( over 18) and they are willing to keep you, I would call the police, or a social worker and just ask them who you have to talk to so you don't have to go back home because of your moms problem. If his family will take you in, they usually deem your mothers home unfit and agree that where you are is in your best interest

Minni

If shes an Alcoholic chances are she wont call the cops on you especially if you have ran away more then once, I know how it feels to live with one and the difference it makes when your not around that negativity. You sound like a smart kid, Keep up the good work and hopefully your mom will get help for her problem.

jane

many possibilities.. many things that can happen. you don't know.
umm i was 15 when i was dating a man my parents disapproved of. and that was in the state of virginia. my parents threatened of filing cases on him.. so i had to let him go.. that's basically what happened. in your case, i don't know.. i can't really help at all here. this just reminded me of my time 5 years ago.. so yeah. but i wish you the best of luck and if he loves you enough, he'll be by your side no matter what you goes through!

Jon

I agree, call human services, you sound like a good kid, and im sure deep down your mother is a good person. But right now, you need to be away from her.

notyou311

I agree that CPS needs to be called. You can also call 1-800-4ACHILD. There is help available for you but you need to reach out and find it. Talk to your school counselor, too.

Kimiko â™¥

Um, hello?!

YOU need to call the cops on HER!

Hear what you're saying, darling. You are an A+ student, and you're 17. You have made so much progress, and you would regret dropping out very very much in the future. Don't go through life wondering what could have happened if you stayed in school.

Despite what people may say, school is probably one of the top three most important things in your life. Ask a councelor, or an adult about what to do and ask them for help.

Good luck, honey.

:)

JAMIC CHU!

>.< she wont call the cops on u, u shou;d call the cops on HER, u dont deserve that stay with ur boy freind call child line or something simalar and if she gives u bull sh** then call the cops.

GD LUCK

Cosita Rica

Nah..Its been a week already. If your mom called the cops you'll be with her by now. Just keep your head up no matter what but remember there's that person who gave you life all alone and she needs your help to get better. Don't forget all about her because alcohol can kill thousands of people a year and you might not see her again.

caramelcoloredgirl

She can't have you arrested when she's the one who kicked you out! Also, the police have to consider that when you're with her, you're in a situation that's detrimental to you as a minor! A neighbor could have called child protective services and had you removed from the situation as well. And all you would have to do is let the police know she's an alcoholic! They'd put her under the spotlight instead of arresting you! Don't worry! You'll be in my prayers! Keep your head up, stay in school and keep earning those A+'s Don't let your mom's dark present dim out your bright future! God bless babe!

rebecca

She could call the cops cause your a runaway.But you can tell someone about her problem..So she can get some help.Dont quit school.Dont let her make you out like her..Just stay with him if thats doing you some good and stay in school.Your doing good and talk to someone.god luck

pechinrules

Have you ever watched intervention? Sounds like you are heading down that road.

Simply Meâ™¥

well your momma can get in trouble so stay in school and pray

Clive M

No never quit because of others problems, this is your life and you desrve to choose how to live it.Your mum chose hers and now it`s your turn.Never look back, keep focusing on what you are studying, I don`t know how is the law at your place . Definitely she can report to the police that you are missing.Does she know where are you staying?Maybe you can talk this with a Social Worker and I am sure that you will find help from them, just explain to them what is happening to you. Do you have any family except for your mum? If you have try speak with them first.

Deb S (SFECU) pray4revival

Can you talk to the counselor at your school and let them know your home is unsafe to live at? The counselor could help you know who to talk to, so you can get to a safe place. Then your mom will not be able to cause you any harm or try to get you arrested.
Living with your boyfriend is not the healthiest situation to be in.

I hope you don't mind me telling you about my own situation. When I was 17 my mom kicked me out and then had me arrested. She told the police that I ran away, which was not true, but they did not believe me. This happened 27 years ago. Back then, kids were not protected from abusive homes as much as they are now. I kept telling the counselors at the school that my dad was beating on me and they did nothing about it. Finally, a different counselor believed me and offered to put me in a foster home. It's strange that they didn't remove my brothers and I from the home. That is what they would do now. But back then, they just offered it and said it was my choice.
It's very important that you talk to someone and keep talking until you get help.
Another place you can call for help is: The Boys Town National Hotline.
The Boys Town National Hotline is a 24-hour crisis, resource and referral line. Trained counselors can respond to your questions every day of the week, 365 days a year. We can help teens and parents with suicide prevention, depression, school issues, parenting troubles, runaways, relationship problems, physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, chemical dependency, anger and much more.

mozza

My advice is finish school get youself a scholarship to a good school let your mum know how you feel about her drinking problem and try to get her help and stay at your boyfriends for the moment until things get sorted at home

doctorpain

i believe you are of age to make your own decisions,but on the other hand you should try to help your mom with her problem and be supportive to her,and love her as she DOES love you

Thomas D

Sweet heart I don't blame you for wanting leave home , you should call the police on your mother because she has a Problem with Alcohol and she needs to get help I mean professionel help. I my self gave up getting intoxicated by alcohol when i was in my mid 30's and I,m now in my late 40's and for several years I did not touch a drop<, I occaisonally once in a great while will have me a beer but that is it. I don't want no more and I limit my self because I do not want to go back to how I was before and 1 beer is enuff for me thats all I want

Jay

Sweetheart, I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. Please don't quit high school. Just stick with it a little longer. You've made it through this far. If you quit, it will be so much harder to find a career and move on with your life.

Think about it. If you graduate, you'll be able to get a scholarship and go to college and get a great job and have your own place away from your mother and you can be with your bf whenever you want.

If you drop out, you won't have a very good chance of getting to college or finding a job so you'll be stuck living with your mom or mooching off of other people. You don't want to do that.

As far as the police go, I'm not sure what your mom can do about it but I do think that you are better off with your bf. It's not good to live under those conditions with your mother.

Good luck, babe. Love yourself. You're beautiful!

dharma_star

im so happy for you... given your situation ur still standing strong and geting good grdes... yeah really if she decides to call the cops on u, she will be the only one getting herself in trouble and you will end up maybe been placed i a foster home until you turn 18 then you can do what you wish.

rinow

You should of mentioned what state your in as the definition of minor varies in different states.
If your in a state where you are considered an adult then you have a perfect right to do as you please as long as you uphold the law.
I never understood why there cannot be agreement as to the definition of minor .
I myself left home after just turning 16 and never returned till my 30,s.
Im a male so maybe it was a bit easier for me.
These states and countries around the world who consider 18 to be a legal age are not with reality.
I felt as an adult when I was only 16 and was working part time and away from home and was happily bedding women at that age.
And at 17 I travelled widely and had various jobs. There needs to be a uniform change in laws in this area to 16 being the legal age for men and 17 for women.
You are a woman now atb 17 make your own choices.

Chrise G

oh boy ok i hope this can help. if the cops do come explain your situation and i hope things go well then on. all the best to you.

I dont know the Answer

PLEASE dont quit school no matter how hard it is. Can't you see you are better off without your mother? I have been through similar events and it is not YOUR job to make your mom happy. She is in the mess she is in because of her desicions and you are not fault so don't let yourself fail because of her.
If you feel safewith your boyfriend, then you are just fine there. You can determine what is best for you. Especially when you are an A+ student
:)

jothepopo

Listen Jessica. If your mother is really an "alcohalic" then the police would have not listened to her when they said you ran away. You should inform the police yourselves instead of acting immature and finding a reason to run away from home. Straight As or not. It is no excuse to run from your problems. Trouble always occurs if you run away. Best bet is you go to the cops or your mother and contront the problem. The cops will not do anything at all. They can't you ran away. All they'll do is return you home. End of Story

Eleni S <3

She can't do anything. Report her. Finish highschool and get yourself a scholarship to a good school :)

lawrence913

Stay where you are, If you go home now you will end her catching back up to her "me-time) that you clearly ruined with your birth.

Bitchy Girl

if you are an A student then im sure you relize your ability to emancipate yourself. you really do have to be on top of your **** in order to do it. you must prove income and prove that you can take care of yourself. if your mother is making your home life that screwed up then the state will have no problem placing you in foster care. do you even want to do that?
honestly its probably easier for her to just say **** it and keep on drinking. maybe this is the hint she needs. i mean, your 17. your totally capable of living on your own. i moved out when i was 16 but had my moms permission.
its not what the cops will do. its what the courts will do. if they see that your obviousley doing fine with the boy and have persission from his mom to stay there and then they look at your mom and she makes herself look unfit, they will probly side with you. courts arent out to ruin lives. they are out to protect the lives of perfectly good people. you just have to take the initiative to prove that. they like seeing things on paper.

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