Was I wrong? I need your honest opinion...?

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Nika

Re$h, in my first marriage, I was the one getting my head slammed against the wall. No, not kidding. And I wish someone would have called the police back then when I was unable to do so for myself. Was just a buch a wutless macos living by me back then and everybody wanted to listen and watch but nobody would ever step in and help when I needed it. True, what don't kill you makes you stronger, but still. You did the right thing.

Don, son of Shakka

Purest of Blessings to you my sister, you're indeed a brother's/sister's keeper, you did the right, humane, just and noble thing.
Sister Nika, I am thankful that you're now over that obstacle, you can now soar with your angelic grace.
Love, peace and happiness to all the queens and princesses of this earth.

julien

jed yuh do good. Too much ah dat sh it going on and people does just want to maco and laugh.
Wha ever de outcome at least de woman know somebody out dey care enough to tell de man to stop.
Now DV is ah whole kinda different ting, she eh go want to leave he because of all kinda wha we call dotishness. But de fact remains yuh eh stand wit yuh hands up yuh ar$e and dat says ah lot.Good job jed.
If ever de woman try to talk to yuh give she de time of de day she might be reaching out for help and yuh jes might be de one.

thinker_belle*

you were damn right..........arguing is one thing two people have the right to scream their head off at each other if they so wish but once there is an element of violence thats a whole other thing - you did well Resh and there should be more caring people like you - it doesnt matter if they patched things up - fact is it wont be so easy to patch her body up if he goes too far one day - even if someone fails to care for their own well-being then its still good to know you are a decent human being and you care.- its better to intervene than to wake up to find out he murdered her .......

Â¡Keisha!

Wha kina Jerry Springer madness goin on ? I don't think yuh was wrong. People should not be scared to speak up when something wrong is going on. Alot of people does turn they head beacuse dey don;t want to get involved or become de next victim. Sometimes yuh have to stand up for what's right. I would have done the same and i have actually done the same in the past.

Sa_San

You weren't wrong to meddle in their business. Calling the police was the best thing to do. But I doesn't understand if the son is arguing with the father for what happened, why the mother is defending him (the husband)? But anyway, you didn't do nothing wrong, and yes yall shouldn't mingle with them.

princessmeltdown

I would definitely have called the police. I would also have tried to take pictures if I could have.

Chances are this woman will stay with this man because she's afraid to leave him, thinks she deserves to be treated this way and/or because he's threatened to kill her or someone close to her if she ever tries to leave.

None of this makes it right, and if the police are continually called, even if she won't make a report, the police can still lock this guy up.

Big Nukkah

No u did the right thing! Abuse is wrong and nobody should have to go through that, regardless of the person!!! That woman could have been dead. She was probably yelling at the son to "Leave her husband alone" because she was confused and lost and had no idea what was going on, nor who she was talking to (She might have gotten some brain damage :( ) That's so sad to hear about something terrible like that, but know that you DID do the right, moral, and straight up perfect thing to do!

Now I see if they were just arguing and shouting (all couples do that lol) then that wouldn't be right, but if this woman in being hurt AT ALL, trust that's when some action needs to be taken.

Living Legend Del Piero (JS)

I would have called the police

but here is the thing it may sound cruel but fact is if she got the kinda licks you talking about and then turning around and saying leave my husband its like an old saying

"she like it jus so" all i know is if that was my sister i would be in jail or something cause no man ain't doing that but as from what i understand she seems willing to take his abuse which i hate to see i think any man who can hit/beat up on a woman unless she trying to kill you literally you are a monster and that guy or one of the 3 going to end up in the Express

â™¥ Taylor â™¥

You weren't wrong. i would have done the same thing. i mean he was slamming her head in he could have killed her. i mean you did all you could do. And obviously shes got some problems if the only thing shes worried about id her son beating up her husband who just tried to kill her. Situations like that piss me off and make me sad. you know? You did what you could do and they cussed you out for it so if i were you i would worry bout it anymore. just ignore it...i know that sounds bad..but you gotta do what you gotta do.

Highly Favoured

No, you are not wrong because i would have done the same thing too. Do not even regret meddling in their affairs. That is what we Caribbean people do. I have heard it said that we can't live in the States because we would have gotten shot already. People say we are too malicious but we cant turn a blind eye to what is going on.

I have come along and hear my mother say that 'never get between four legs in a bed' because when they make up one of them will hate you or stop speaking to you.

Something is seriously wrong with the mother that she would actually defend the husband after all them blows. She probably thinks that he loves her that is why he is beating her. The whole family have problems and need some help. They will do and do until someone gets kill.

You will be surprise to see that if he had killed her how fast the police would have arrived and nuff too.

You are only saying that about not wanting friends with them again but if you had to see him killing her you would not walk away. It is not in your heart. Next time call the police and tell them that a man had just killed a woman so they can come fast. (just kidding)

All you got to do is be careful because the one who parts the fight is the one who ends u dead. Not that you should part the fight,

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OK ive learn being a trini, police; smolice! dey doh eva come; esp wen u need them. dey does come wen ppl dead! but considerin no other options, yeh i woulda call them 2. n with respect to the woman satin leave me husband alone; typical scenario. Reason being bc the husband is her only means of support; be it financial or otherwise and without him, she believes that she will be lost!! Wel, in most cases of this, this is wt d woman thinks. or it just be that she is araid of him and waht he does her wen no 1 is lookin(jus imagine) so.. she needs help but is afraid!!!

hottawarrior - win lose or draw

@Highly Favoured - dont let no body fool you with that, if he had killled her, then d police woulda gotten then WHEN dey got there, cause they would be saying that she done dead aready it ent have nothing that they can do for her then.

Resh, you did the right thing, interrupting these kinds of arguments can save a life, no matter what is said or done at the time. CAll the police, and continue to call the police and encourage your neighbours to call also, they will eventually reach.

We had an incident where the neighbour's brother in law, went wake and attempted leave his wife with a young baby home alone (up in country side...bush nah), she told him she not staying there alone and came by her sister, he come home froma wake bout 3 in d morning and start to cuss and get on. pelting stones and bottles and break up all d louvres, run up in d house and grab up d child, gone back out in d road and threatening to kill the chile by throwing him in d canal. the sister daughter run out the house in her nightie, no slippers nothing and by one of the other neighbours and he have d baby, cussing and carrying on.

of course it take several calls from me and the other neighbours and bout an hour of this drama before the police reach. thankfully, no one got hurt and everthing worked out. but i would do it again, especially if there are children involved.

@nika, im really sorry to hear about your situation, and eternally thankful that you are out of it.

it is an extremely difficult situation to get out of,,,my aunt had to give up her job, leave her children, house, car everything and leave the country to get out of it because her ex is a police officer and had promised to kill her. When he started bringing home his gun she got a suitcase from one sister, had it stored by another, and each day she would move some clothing out the house. A week later, he went to work, she collected the suitcase, and hopped a plane.

Domestic Violence is somethign that you have to want to get out off, and unless you decide that enough is enough, then no matter what people do around you you will stay in the situation... oh that is my husband, or the children need a father. No body needs a man who is beating his wife. The neighbourhood must continue to be our family, ad we should continue to look out for each other, no matter what they say!

Ann Grier

The police ain't reach yet? These so called police make me sick. They are always extremely slow to take action. I would hate for this to end in tragedy, but these cops always wait until someone dies before they come to the scene.

You did the right thing. I know about that saying that people always say, about not not meddling in couples affairs, but this situation was obviously too serious to ignore. Someone has to step in. Now!

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