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I am an AMERICAN Jewish woman MARRIED to a TURK who is religious.
His family callme daughter and love me. Turks are the best people ALIVE |
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Zorch
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It depends on the husbands family. If they're from the north, you will be treated like a queen... if he is from the south, it varies.
A friend of mine married another Turkish woman and she was not respected until she gave birth to a boy... But I think that was isolated old school stuff that is shunned now days.
My wife's family treats me like a king all of the time. I love these people.
Personally, I think you will be very happy. They are very family oriented and respectful. I'm the happiest guy in the world. One secret- Women always have control over their husbands in Turkey. It's NOT The other way around. He has to respect you because that is how he is judged by others. I treat my wife as a queen and our daughter as a princess. If he gives you problems, talk to his father!
Note: When you sign the marriage papers, step on his foot first.
You don't have to convert. Only the guys have to convert if they want to marry a Muslim lady.
Edit: Why do most westerners think Turks are like Arabs? They are 180 degrees opposite. Duuuuhhh! |
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MORTİCİA
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They will eat her since we the Turks are always the bad ones |
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expatturk
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It depends on both the man's family and on the woman's own personality. If she is willing to understand Turkish customs and to accept them and be respectful even if she is not always able to act like a Turk. The question of religion varies from person to person. Discover how the man and his family feel before getting into any discussions of the differences or problems. My personal experience with Turkish families has been welcoming; my American mother-in-law should treat me so nicely. I am always treated as both an honored guest and a close friend.
Just go slowly (yavas, yavas -- sorry to Turkish speakers, I have no Turkish letters!) as you would with any man. |
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gumtrunk
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This is not a religious matter but a cultural one. Ask him what his family will be like and how he expect them to react to the news.
Trust me, it will be as hard for him to tell them he's dating you if he think his family is narrow minded. If he doesn't have a problem to tell them then you can expect a good outcome. |
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i cant understand why non Turks answer this question. do you know him? i think you must think if you really love him or not because Internet is not place to ask this kind of questions. its better you ask this to him personally. frst get to know him and his family. i am a Turkish Muslim woman and married to English christian man. my family did not make any problem. he did not convert to Islam. my cousin married to an American girl . and she did not convert Islam. you look very prejudice. i am sorry but i have to tell you that. Turkish people are nice and kind. she will be treated like a queen. dont worry |
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Irmak
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It's up to that man's family.
If they are traditionalist, u can get in a difficult position at the beginning but I'm sure, if he loves you truly he can talk with his family and solve this problem.
But if they are more modern, they will accept at the first time, for sure. |
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Totally Blunt
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I can't believe the prejudice from all those people who have never met one single Turkish family in their lives. Never mind them.
Like said above, it depends on the family. Some rural and traditional families are very opinionated about who their sons should marry. But that is not a rule either. Some rural families may be quite warm and welcoming, too.
Families in my acquaintance wouldn't mind a foreign bride from whatever religion. If you are concerned, you (or whoever is concerned) may ask your boyfriend to tell you about his family. You can ask for pictures. What he tells you will give you enough evidence about what to expect.
For example, you cannot expect a chadored mother to show respect to your religion. On the other hand, a modern mother wouldn't care what religion you practice. |
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ithinkiatetoomuch
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Well, they are dating, not planning on marrying so the family might say nothing cause there is no need until it becomes serious and the couple talk about getting married.
If she outwardly says, "I will never convert," it sounds like she is throwing her nose up at their beliefs without knowing a lot about Islam and throwing her nose up at them in the same way. A wise girl who wants to be accepted would be open to learning about Islam even if it is only to get a better understanding of her boyfriend and his beliefs, if the question arises in the future about her conversion the family will know that she has made an informed, respectful decision to not become a Muslim and that will be easier to accept for the family.
Like anywhere, there is a huge variety in the types of Turkish families, no one here will be able to tell you exactly what would happen but this plan of respectful, complementary curiosity will work in all but the most extreme cases. Those cases being... they are Muslim and they don't care what you are so you have no problem or they are Muslim and will only accept another Muslim.
GOOD LUCK! |
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istanbul bogazi
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People are so prejudiced it is unbelievable.
Ok, we have one Greek, one Russian,one Spanish (i know it's like a European union) in the family. They are neither converted to anything nor asked anything about their religion. Please stop making false comments on a country you don't even know.
I have friends who are married to other nationalities noone asks them to do anything. |
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Qu'est ce que tu pense?
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As an American-Turk I can reassure you that the woman would most likely be welcomed into the family, regardless of what religion she is. Of course if the family is very narrow-minded like some people on Yahoo, they would not accept this lady as one of them. It all depends on what the family wants, and that can always differ like with any family throughout the world. |
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FoudaFaFa
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probably like any family, one should show some interest and be educated about the country/way of life/culture etc and be open to others even though far different than yourself. Showing interest and being unbiased goes a long way to mutual understanding Try not to go into it with any pre-conceived ideas in stone, as many in these answers have done to their own detriment. In that way you will have a clear view and be able to decide if the relationship can gain support in the other family or if you would all be "going it alone". There are many parents of any culture that feel the prosepctive spouse is unworthy of their child, so that can be more important in any close knit family whose culture values family over the individual. Time and patience would be in order if this is to be a serious relationship as any cross cultural marriage can be challenging Culture rather than religion will often be the biggest hurdle to negotiate. For reference and to get you more up to par w Islamic religion facts rather than extremist views(way more than some of the other answerers),may I sugggest a non-Muslim respected author as well as the holy book itself and another author of Islamic faith to read.I have faith that the majority of my fellow Americans can learn about another way of life in an objective manner.Good luck! |
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ermenicik
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Don't you think you are asking for a biased answer here?
Do you think there is something like "Turkish Standards for Treating American Women"? |
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am
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Since it is a shame in Turkey to date, they will see you as dirty to be honest, escpially his mother and sisters. Also the children would have to be raised Muslim if you got married. |
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Trotsky vs Kerensky- НекIо!
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I do not believe you have a healthy communication with your bf. If I had a bf I loved from another country, I'd learn everything about his country -as I did before *blushes* (:p) So I'd never rely on yahoo answers because most of the people answered here have no idea about the Turks. When you say Muslim everybody thinks of a man in Arab clothes with dark skin and a beard.
Anyway, let me try to help you. Turkey is a vast country with a variety of people. Most of the people are open minded enough to accept a foreign bride but the problem arises generally not from religion but from cultural differences even if they are open minded people. I think that same goes for people living in rural areas unless his family is among the 2 % of Turkish population who are extremely religious. Did he ever implied anything that you should convert? If he did, probably your religion would be a problem.
Also ask him which part of Turkey he is from, if he is a kurd not a Turk, I bet your religion would definitely be a problem.
But if you are planning to only visit his parents in Turkey, I can assure you that you will be treated very nicely. Turks are very hospitable. |
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truth
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You will be his property and he may sell you in to the sex trade.
Wake up read what they did to Christian Armenians. |
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A-Haaa
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If you marry him, you will be treated badly, most likely.
Read '"Fatwa" by Jackie Trevane. Harrowing account of a woman who married a Muslim and nearly paid with her life. |
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maram
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It depends on the family, Muslim men are alowed to marry none Mulims as their children will be Muslims like him in the future. |
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Zarzoorner
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Do not bet on your not getting converted to Islam, after getting married, he and his family will make your days in hell, till they get what they want. |
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loofa36
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lousy...they are devout Muslims as well and until you convert...you are nothing more then infidel crap |
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Kris
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like trash
dont go to gobble gobble |
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fabu_hotchic
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Duh... she'll have to convert to marry him for sure.Yet the family is gonna treat her like crap. |
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Misviv
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They will probably take your refusal to convert as an affront to their core beliefs and therefore dislike you. Even the 'secular' turks who insist on personal freedom and modernity are very defensive about Islam. |
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g.wren
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like trash init coz i hate the muslims but some are alrite |
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