Do you think people can change?

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Yes. Look at our Prime "Minister". He says he has changed. So what? :)))
People may change look at him and see! :)))

Kimon

People do change, if they really want to. It takes a lot of effort and pain but it does happen.
The first, and hardest step, is to understand that there is something wrong with you.

Dellarovere

A wise Latin quote says:
"Quod ab initium vitiosum est, non potest tractu temporis convalescere"....
Meaning whatever is wrong from the begining, cannot change by the passing of the time....
Nobody and nothing changes. Only superficially seems to be transformed. But deed inside it's either diamonds or rust....

Ipek K

A complete change is impossible in a normal person.

The makeup changes but the core stays the same. People sometimes mellow out a little or get bitter a little in time but the character is a solid thing, it bends very slightly.

There are of course some who seem like they change 180 degrees but I believe that is because of a weak character or no character at all. It may also indicate psychological problems.

Only if they want to .

DejaVu- RETURNS

yes they can, I personally have changed in last 10 yrs so very much, my old friends gets a shock when we meet again,

but do you know why, there are two reasons

1. There were things I didn't like about myself and tried very hard to change them and I did, so that comes to say a person can change if they really want to

2. Unwanted change; caused by experiences in life, loosing joy, loosing laughter, loosing trust, that affects the personality
welcome change by experiences; giving you the relaxation of saying I have been there done it would or wouldn't do it again

we should never try to change people accept them the way they are and trust in that if we give them enough love, trust and time, they will change the things we don t like about them anyway...

Leprechaun

There's a proverb in Turkish with the same meaning of Dellarovere's quote:

"Can Ã§Ä±kar huy Ã§Ä±kmaz"

means something like, habits/character will stay the same even the person is dead.

It's true in a way,but i think people can change. I saw them changed. But i was disappointed by some people,hoping they will change,giving 2nd or 3rd chances but stays the same. It depends on the person and the people around him/her i guess.

And yes,change is sometimes useful. You may like a person,everything about him but there can be one very irritating habit of him. Wouldn't you want to change it? I would.

NoxecA

that depends on the offer............

Undetermined Quantity

It is good to see the good in people and to be friends because of this. The not good things in people are good to change and we may find more beauty in our friends when they change for better.

It is like polishing a stone. This is what life does.

hip lady wants YA fixed

in the dealings of some of the people in my life i have found out that there is a few that can't change

change is the nature of life. life is never still for very long.

emiliosailez

Circumstances and ...age do change people in some ways.

ottoman

People change , just like you do as years go by, or some thing happen in our lives that makes us change, It is done gradually over time , some time we don't notice the change, either in us or some one we know ,
How about, you had a friend at school days 14 and 15 year old , come at the age of say 25 you expect them to change, act their age, some one gets married , now it's a different ball game, married man or woman have no option but to change their ways, attitudes,
If we don't change to suit the times we will get left behind,
It is in our genes to evolve to change ,

..Tolia..

I think that people can change some characteristics of their personality but complete changes cannot be done

its a miracle if someone can change a kusur or a habit (regarding his/hers behavior). This is possible but it takes time in normal cases

or the other case is that something extraordinaire happens, something extremely important so the person is persuaded to change and accept another point of view to his life

so, to answer your questions :
*it isnt like being friend with someone else - the only case you can live this kind of situation, is to find ANOTHER friend

**we like them, we need them, we love them, but we may dont accept some little tiny characteristics they have, that make our life difficult -one way or another!!! i.e i love my friend so much but she is not accurate in her appointments etc.

Totally Blunt

I tend to believe the essence stays the same, but the outer layer may change.

I recently learned that my childhood friend's husband became an MP for MHP. Her parents were staunch CHP supporters in our childhood. It surprised me, but then I wondered at myself, for what DID I really know about her in those young years? Besides, she was a sweet kid then, I'm sure she is a sweet lady and a mother now.

Same with your high school friends, university friends. Even if we don't talk politics, we get to know their essence, i.e. their personality. So, if you stay true to the essence in your (new) relation, I bet you will see that he/she didn't really change.

Trotsky vs Kerensky- ÐÐµÐºIÐ¾!

No people never change. So our young, smart and pretty girl cannot turn her wicked but attractive boyfriend into a charitable and upright prince as it often happens in books or movies. Sad to believe that no one can change tho, it drains your hopes.

Gerhard S

not really, 80% is genetically predisposed, 20% perhaps modified by the environment.
extreme conditions and traumamay make a change, but usually not for the better.

Pinky

Yes ppl can definitely change,they can change from bad to good or good to bad,or they can change their character and try to be someone else.

But just becuz we choose to be friends with ppl that doesnt mean we cant accept changes in them at the 1st place,everyone changes from time to time,and its up to us if we choose to keep in touch with them or not!!

Delilah

yeah if they get a shock

Lestat

People don't change, they simply become who they are in reality.

Qu'est ce que tu pense?

Yes, I think people can change. Take Britney Spears for example. She didn't change for the better, but the worst, yet it was very easy for her to change. Another example would be Nicole Richie. Ever since she got pregnant, she has changed her ways to being more caring and realize what's important to her life. That's an example of how someone can easily change for the better. Even Scrooge can be an example to that.
Personally, I think it's very easy for someone to change. I don't think it's difficult at all.

musicman47

When you meet someone in a relationship, what you see, both good and bad, you must except the whole package and hopefully they will do the same with you too!

ipek

We want them to change I dont know why.Really they never change. Maybe they dont want to lose us and they pretend to change.In real life you change when you get older.
We want to change them because we find something that we love and try to correct the other part.

Alice in Wonderbra

People can get "lustre", while being educated, rising to higher economical levels, dealing with the upper class... etc.etc. These changes are superficial. The core of the human does not change. We can see that, especially when they are under stress where the respond spontaneously and their ...good old self is projected in its full glory.
Oh, sometimes, the do change...... to the worse!

carmelo_sabato

You Never Know Try Me !

Selena

Yes, I believe people can change, either the bad way or the good way!
Scenario 1: Someone looses his job, his house, his family, his dignity ....most likely he will become a criminal
Scenario 2: Someone did something bad and regrets it a lot, he will try everything to do good deeds afterwards

We choose our friends because they remind us of someone and we tend to compare them to this person and that is why we want them to change.

Ã§etin

I want to answer this question from the social side.The point of view of the dialectic(my opinion-scientific socialism) accepts that the people have to change.

In time,people build new reproduction method.New reproduction methods causes new social relations.This creates new human characteristics(for example social,individual etc.),too.This cause-consequence relation changes the people.

In addition, same as TÃœRKÄ°YE, national leaders (M.K.ATATÃœRK) make people accept their visions.
Especially this changes the people,too.

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