Greek people, do you know some Greek-Turkish couples? And what do you think about the choice of those persons?

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The real حقيقي اليونانية Sophia

I think that there is no problem in that. The past is the past and even though our nations sometimes have problems with eachother it doesnt matter. You 2 arent the nations, you 2 are people who fell in love with eachother, why should something so stupid like nations fighting dictate love? Its your personality and your lover's personality that dictates love.

Çünkü kardeş ülkeler Yunanlılar ve Türk halkı arasında sevgi gerekir.

Elakus

OK by me, but the problem in not geographical or even in the small islands of hate remaining on both sides.

The problem is rooted much deeper.
And that is - religion.

It could only work if one of them is a non believer and willing to take his/hers religion.

Any other way and the relatives of each will make a hell on earth for them.
Or move to overseas is also an option.

Elaine

Well, if two people are in love and they believe they can make their relationship work, I don't think that other issues should matter. Nor should the opinions of other people be of any importance.

I know two Greek-Turkish couples and they seem very happy...

Linktothepast83

No, i don't think that bilateral country problems should affect the relationships between individuals. Unfortunately they do sometimes, but as long as it is possible they shouldn't.

If you like a Greek guy and he likes you too, go for it. The real challenge in such relationships is how you overcome the differences that show up between you, and not what others think imo.

We have a saying that goes like: If the bride and the groom wants something, the father in law is irrelevant.

I don't know personally of such a couple, but i have seen at television a mayor of a town in an island who married a beautiful Turkish woman from Smyrna i think... Lucky mayor i say, she was gorgeous...

Vasiliki-Βασιλική

I know Tuce Kazaz ( I dont know the spelling ) and Giorgos Seitaridis
and Nadia and Selim (survivor)

In real life, I only know a girl who has a relationship with a Muslim Turk from Thrace and they are very happy.

I don't think that the problem is the nationality or the past.
I think that the problem is , when the time will come to get into more serious (aka wedding or engagement) one fo the two of you is going to convert.
Even me, where I am an Atheist mostly, I wouldnt convert.Not only to muslim but to none religion.

Though I wouldn't mind to be in that relationship or to see that kind of relationship.If you/they can overcome the religious problems, then everything is allright.

Another problem would be how open-minded would be the families of both sides.
Some parents may not have such a problem, some other they might.

If the love deserves the try, then go on .....Love is above all, above nationality,religion......Give it a try!!!

Tottaly Blunt:
Platypuss is now against you as well!!!Welcome to the club.She seems to hate everyone not only the Greeks.

Totally Blunt

There are nice guys and bad guys everywhere, Hülya. Like we tell foreign brides-to-be, consider his character and give your decision accordingly.

If/when things get more serious, meet the family and see how they take you.

I, personally, wouldn't change my belief system for anybody else, but many modern guys donot require that anyway. There are tens of thousands of Russian brides only in Turkey and husbands of most don't care if and how their wives practice. Why should it be different for Greeks?

I always believe it all depends on the guy, not the ethnicity.

Good luck.

Zoi ((Ζωή))

Maybe we should find some other language instead of english, if people that have it as a first language are annoyed by mistakes!

To be honest, I do believe that love and feelings for someone that you see as a person, don't have much to do with him being Greek, African, Turk etc.
I really admire couples that can be so progressive, strong and sure about their love, so that they can ignore cultural and religional identities.
Since I'm married (to a Greek), it's not a real life problem for me.
I think I wouldn't do such a relationship (we are talking about an affair not a friendship, right?).
Bear also in mind that many women in Greece are not married at my age (33).

I admire people that can overcome this kind of 'obstacles', I don't find it right in 2008 to exist such problems...
What if my daughter was in love or wanted to marry a Turk? No problem, but I'd like him to be educated (regardless if black or white).
FEELING HAPPY, is only that matters!

asimenia

I personally have 2 Turkish girlfriends who married Greeks. One married many years ago and has suffered at the hands of his family and friends (racism hatred) and she is one of the nicest people I have ever met! But he is/was a first class w*nker, she got breast cancer a few years back and he wasn't there for her - thankfully they have divorced.
However the other girl is much younger and has married a Greek whose family thinks she's wonderful and treat her like a Princess.

My cousin (Brit in UK) married a Turkish guy many years ago in London and she's still with him - before my uncle died he promised to never change his 'English rose' but she's now totally Muslim and he's a preacher (?) in a Mosque in London.

Greek men who are open minded (my generation- not young) are few and far between and even the younger generation are influenced by the teachings at school to do with Greek/Turkish relations of years gone by.

What I have seen is my friend's (Turkish girl) son get taunted for having a Turkish mother - but then again my own daughter came home crying because they were learning about 'the British people stealing the marbles' and the kids picked on her for having a British mother - I told her to go back to school and tell then ONE man 'stole' (not 100% proven) them and not ALL british people!

So any mixed marriage/relationship will have its problems - but I feel a Turkish/Greek relationship with have more than it's fair share!
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Bravo Vasiliki - don't convert just to marry! I was really bullied by Orthodox priests but there was NO WAY I was going to change my 'up bringing' fo them!!!! I knew that I would Baptise my kids Greek Orthodox as we live in Greece and hubby is Greek Orthodox - had we lived in UK this would NEVER have happened!

Allan D is GAME OVER

Oh, everybody seems to be in romantic mood tonight...

I have tears in my eyes now...

lol

Ali Veli Deli

Well I am from Turkey and have a happy marriage with a greek women since many years
there is no problem between religions
she is an orthodox and i didn't say her "You MUST change your religion, because it is a part of turkish culture"
it is not even a part of turkish culture and islamic world to change religion if your partner is not moslem.

Turkey is not a moslem country either
there are tons of people in turkey that have different religions
I have got pagan, buddhist, atheist friends

Rengim

I know I'm not Greek but I have the privilege of speaking from experience. I have a few Greek friends but I only dated one, it laster for around two months (it's long enough for me) but ended pretty sourly but honestly it was an exciting and challenging relationship, and I don't regret any second of it. I'd do it again if I could. This is not based on nationality but more on the fact that we were so alike, we had the same temperament, almost the same opinions and outlooks on life. Maybe it was my luck but it truly showed me that being neighbors is truly something else. The Mediterranean blood boiled in us, and honestly it seemed like I had more in common with him than most of my other Turkish boyfriends (on a philosophical point of view we could say it was because we cherished the things that united us most as if to spite the animosity that exists between the two nations, I might be looking too much into it but I don't know). We both knew that we didn't make history, so we had absolutely no reason not to get along (though politics would get us heated) if our personalities matched and if we enjoyed each other's presence (and boy did we).

But Vasiliki is right, belief systems might be harder to cross over compared to nationality issues. In a nutshell, religion is rooted deeply into your consciousness if you come from a religious family, politics come later when the child starts going to school, so it's usually more difficult for people to forget religious traditions which they associate with their idea of a family (I'm not sure how to make myself clearer, I hope I did). We were both non-believers so we didn't even need to consider such problems. But if you're a hardcore believer and consider your religion sacred, and don't think love can overcome barriers then unless one of you is willing to convert, marriage might be hard though otherwise keep in mind that religious ceremonies are not mandatory in both countries.

Seriously don't think too much about it, just try it, if it doesn't work it won't I don't see why it should be any different from any other relationship you had. And deep down it's not. Plus if he's already into you then it means he doesn't really care about religion or politics or at least doesn't associate individuals with governments :) You have nothing to worry about in my honest opinion.

I just realized how much I miss him :-/

Platypus is Greek

Yep. Know some of those mixed couples.
Terrible. Fighting and swearing 24/7.

@*Totally Blunt* I don't like your answers, but at least I did respect you.
But what you said just now shows to much of your chauvinistic attitude.
So - it's always only the guy - is it?

Wake up and smell the hummus.
(Hummus-not just a food favoured by some groups, but also a pile of soil, food leftovers, human and animal feces, green matter and plenty of bulashita made by you).

nepo_water

maybe the families many not like it. but each to their own.
my friend is about to marry a ablibian woman.

Mirage

internet love dreams

exo apta dontia

After what the Turks have done to the Greeks? I don't approve. But it's not up to me, it's up to you. Wow, you must have a big heart.

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