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there are certain things that you mustn't lie in a relationship.

whataboutthisforaloginname

His nationality has nothing to do with it - the bottom line is that she is lying and he thinks that she is sleeping with other men. Not exactly a trusting relationship is it?

Plus, why is she worried that he will leave her when he obviously doesn't care about her?
What if she were really pregnant?
His initial response was to ask whether the baby was his, and now she thinks he may finish the relationship because of the "pregnancy".

This man obviously doesn't trust her and has no sense of responsibility so she should finish it with him, find someone who truly cares about her, and thank her lucky stars that she isn't really pregnant...

Ok, so she lied - she tried to test him... but she got her answer. I'm betting that one day she will look back at this and be thankful that she did.

YabanciKiz

First off, she shouldn't have lied.

Second off, the guy is a d*ck for asking whether or not it was his, his sorry *** should be dumped on the spot and his name posted all over http://uk.msnusers.com/TURKEYTURKISHLOVERATS----/anyoneknowhim.msnw

..Tolia..

first of all it doesnt matter his nationality
it matters his ethics and his feelings

second, the problem here is not your friend but her boyfriend
doesnt she really wants to go on with a guy that is reacting like this? she should be worried after this event! does he really cares for her?

third, what are the reasons that lead that young woman to lie about that serious matter?maybe her relationship wasn't good enough? or maybe her boyfriend's behavior wasn't the one it should be?

I wish the best for her

Dr. Beemer

Hello Selin.

It is obvious that the guy was just having fun (using) her. She felt this and wanted to be sure. What she did was very bad, no reasonable man would accept such a lie.
When the guy asked if the the baby is his, that says everything, he does not have feelings for her, was just spending time with her. They will not stay together thats for sure, because the guy is not serious with her, and she is trying to get in control of the relationship, which does not exist in this situation.

Hurricane

according to your words it is more likely to be a joke more than a lie so it shouldn't be like that, i mean her bf is wrong.if my gf makes me the same joke,i won't make any commends till i am sure of her pregnancy.i can understand if it is a joke or not,if your gf's bf acts like that ,it means they should broke up.Your gf deserves better than him,believe me.

anlarm

If I was young and single, and my gf told me she was pregnant, I would probably give her a big hug and buy her flowers and a ring. That would be my reaction. Later, when she told me it was a 'joke', something to test me, I'd be sad, since I love children. Here, we are talking about a bf/gf, right? Not about a 'slut'. Why would I ask my gf who the father was? That is so rude. I feel sorry for your friend, but if she is not a slut, having affairs with other men too, then she should put an end to this relationship.

James

did you mean to type 25? sounds like something a 15 year old would do.

Materazzi82

Never lie to another person for testing him/her...The reaction from the Turkish Boy is not normal but this is not an answer that only Turkish boys give. It is about the relation between them. This means the boy does not trust her,and he is not sure if he is the father,and for him it is normal that your friend can have relations with other boys. If he trusted her,he will not say something like that and he will think differently. He will say''ok,baby is mine'' and he will behave in the way of this. That relation was buit only on sex,not any more...

Totally Blunt

OK, maybe the girl made a mistake lying to her boyfriend. But really! A guy who DARES to ask his girlfriend if the baby is his? Your friend's test was successful. The guy is a jerk. Tell her to dump him.

Whatever contraceptive you are using, they are not 100% foolproof and accidents happen. This could have been a real situation. What if she wasn't lying? She would be a pregnant girl stuck with a pig. It's a good thing she did a childish thing.

Where did the "trustworthy" go, guys? Hellooooo!

Irmak

Sorry but 'kendi kaÅŸÄ±nmÄ±ÅŸ'.....

Missy

they are both weird

the girl shouldn't have lied and her bf is an as*hole if he really asked that question

since the girl is not pregnant, i think she can find another guy

hanibal

Stop your friendship with her.

the girl is lying and her boyfriend says that its not his baby.... they seem to me both a bit wierd....

â™«ELIâ™«

lier and the prick... get rid of 'em

TxsWitchWAB

Sounds like one of those situations...If you don't really want to know the truth, why ask for it.

Kellie

Dumb drama. I hate when girls lie about being pregnet to trap their man into something. She's got two ways out of this one is to fess up to what she did and tell the truth. The other is to fake a miscarriage. This was just dumb of her.

clara

That was a very insensitive and immature thing for her to do. I think most men Turkish or any nationality would find it very difficult to forgive her for this. When she'd said a lie as bad as this he would be afraid to trust her or believe anything she ever said again. Can't really see a happy ending to this situation, I don't think many men would put up with this, but that's up to him isn't it. Lets hope she learns her lesson and thinks before she does something so destructive in future.

Greg

Basically what you're saying is she got the answer.
Not the answer she was looking for no mention of love.

infuscomus

the situation is clear in my opinion:

liar is liar, right? if i was him, i finish.

when she lies today, why not in the future again?
regards..

genÃ§ tÃ¼rk

My GF did this to me and we had a fight and I broke up. This is evil. I tend to stay away from the gals who do this.

pjallittle

Tell your friend to go to her boyfriend and tell him the truth. It is the only way for her to regain his trust. She should tell him why she did it and then she will have cleared her own conscience. It is then up to him to decide what he wants to do about continuing the relationship.

night shadow

She should just tell the truth. It is the best way out of it, but if she does loose him it was her fault. She has to make the decision. You can't do a thing about it.

ANNA

how old is she again? honestly it was very childish of her!

thearizonapenguin

?If I were the guy I would lose her no matter what my nationality. What was she trying to prove? Was she "testing" his love for her. Well, as the expression goes, she made her bed now she has to sleep in it. Maybe now she'll grow up.

THE DAWG.

hmmmm. Women ?

Atila a

I have been get married 25 years ago because of pregnant problem.She is adult. Her boy friend is not a Turk, but mixed bastard.She can find mostly bf in Turkey for to be a dad of her child.Enough only and simple publication on a news paper.

Qu'est ce que tu pense?

In the guy's defense, it was a really bad thing for her to lie that she was pregnant. I can understand that he would freak out over something like that, and the guy has every right to be upset with your friend. Only time can heal this situation... sooner or later, they'll get back together again.

Leprechaun

Forget the girl. Help the guy. He should get rid of the girl.

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