My husband taking a trip without me?

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T <3

He needs some time to remember what his life was like back in Russia bond with old friends reconnect bonds, it was a big part of his life that he hasn't been in years probably because of his marriage and birth of his son. Give him some freedom, tell him your worried about it being for so long and maybe he can cut it down to a week or something.

akroj

There´s nothing to worry about. Russia has changed a lot in the past years and maybe he´s just unsure what he´s to find there after such a long time. That´s why he wants you to come later. I wouldn't worry about it.

cold grey Ash

Well, my husband is from Russia too. He left to go see his family when I was 7 months pregnant. I couldn't fly and his dad was going to have heart surgery one day soon. He ended up having problems with his passport and didn't get home until his son was 3 weeks old!

He took us to meet his parents in June for a month, but he wants to go back now by himself. Just for a few weeks.
He is right - you won't be able to go anywhere by yourself, especially if you don't know the language - either you will be stuck at the hotel with a 3 year old when he wants to go with friends or you will be stuck at the house you are staying at with no one to talk to (if you don't speak Russian). The first 2 weeks we were there he was taking tests to finish the degree he was almost done with before he came here. I was stuck at his parent's house with no one to talk to except the 14 year old cousin who speaks some english. It was miserable. After that we had a great time, but we were lucky because we had someone to take us places. You won't be able to drive there, getting a cab will be very hard with no Russian skills, and taking the bus with a 3 year old would be too hard, plus you'd be standing in the cold waiting for it and walking to and from in the cold.

What is he going to do? Visit old friends. If you don't have many other Russians near you, then you may not get this. They spend all day with friends - friends come to the house to visit, neighbors come to the house to visit, then he will go party at night - he will be drinking all night with his old buddies and probably watch some sports, etc. at the "cafe's" - my husband was out almost every night with his brother, cousins, and friends most of the night, and I wasn't worried because I trust him - he isn't going to fly all the way to Russia to cheat on me or anything.
I wouldn't worry about it. Make a date when you can all go together and let him go if you trust him to be on his own. Honestly, I wouldn't go for such a short time with a little one - the flight is like 15 hours depending on where you are going and just the jet lag takes a week to get over (both ways) I won't go again unless we spend a whole month like we did this time. It is just to hard on our 2 year old son.

Try not to worry - he really is just going to see his "home" - even if his family is here, his home is still there and I'm sure he misses it very much - it's much different than it is here and he probably just misses it.

SWsupreme

Well, my dad is from England and living in Canada. When we went on family vacations before he always got annoyed because he had to do the touristy stuff with us instead of being able to see his old friends and family and doing things HE wanted to do. Your husband may feel that if he brings you along right at first, he won't be able to see his old friends etc. as much as he'd like. Two weeks seems about the right amount of time to re-establish friendships, or visit people you haven't seen in a long time.

Tranquility

What is wrong with it.
I let my husband of the leash every second year.

Come to your senses love, they are the Russian bears and they need this little bit of freedom time to time.
As long as you happy otherwise and he is faithful to you.
LET HIM GO.!!!

Edit.
Follow the thumbs up answers, they are good and logical.

Zheka L

I am going to Russia without my husband at least once a year and for at least 4-6 weeks..he does not speak Russian so it's kind of difficult for me because I have constantly translate for him..just let him go he is Russian for God Sake he will be fine there! And it will be really difficult for you there with such a little child..It's not many facilities for mum and child there (for example you can't take your pushchair inside some shops or cafes!)

Squeaky P

Nothing to worry about. If he was not from Russia I would suspect his intentions, but since he is from there, he has good reasons to not include you on this trip (primarily if you don't speak Russian). Its not an easy place to travel to and around and having to take care of you and the kid would take a LOT of his time and efforts. Its just an easier place to travel to independently.

Monica Breeanne

Thats very strange! I would suggest that you keep a close tab on him the whole time.

that sounds odd to me

diamond_mami05

I dont know why he wouldn't want to take his family with him. Unless he wants to go visit old flings of his. He probably is hiding something from you. You need to ask him why he doesnt want to take you and his son. That's kinda shady!! Or maybe he just wants to have some time to himself... but talk to him about it....

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