Question about Turkish love rats?

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Actually you no longer want him
I think, cause it was
totally inappropriate to
even ask you for any money,
your a student on a limited budget,
it was absolutely inconsiderate
of him to have even expected you to
give him any money but it was clearly
a scandalous motive that led him, to allow his
financial debt to become your "promise"
to pay with a loan you had not even
gotten yet. That was your
loan and if you wanted to offer him money
from it, you would of done so easily I am
sure, if only he had not asked before you
had it to offer. Now that he is mad, this would
be a good time to mention that if he can not
make his car payments, he should not
have a car. And also tell him, he isn't good
enough to be with someone like you.

Å‹oÑThÎµÑÅ‹

He is a douchebag....you should move on and find someone else :)

assuming that this is not a "made-up story"

Keyser

Hmmm...did you agree to loan him the money then go back on your promise?

Maybe hes annoyed because he thought his car payment was sorted out and now its not,so hes worrying.

Still you dont owe him anything,just tell him the truth and if he doesnt understand then he doesnt care for you like he says he does.

You said this happened only today? Just sleep on it and your head will clear and so will his.If you tell him you cant get the money and you tried your best HE should be doing something nice for you because of how hard to tried to help him!

aslÃ½ o

Dump him. You can not take your money back. What kind of a working man asks his girlfriend for money? He loves your money and will squeeze you more. ASAP dump him. Find a decent man (sultanahmet is not a good area for this) and never loan any man, any time in your life.

crazygirl158

To Turk-i: Yes, turkish men are committed and value promises, but nobody flips over money like that. If he was the proud turkish guy you categorized him as, he wouldn't want to ask his girlfriend for money in the first place.
Im sorry but I think he is playing you.You should dump him and go on with your life. He might not even be in military service right now for all you know! Even if he is after a serious relationship, if I were u you I would end this anyway. Because even if he loves you and not your money, he still values money enough to hurt your feelings..
My vote is toward dumping him... :(

Venus

Actually, it's not a difficult question to answer at all: sorry to tell you, but I would say 99% he's after your money. There are some very good reasons to believe that.

First of all, you said "he wouldn't continue this for nine months". Continue what? Has he ever made any serious efforts for you or your relationship, any sacrifices? I mean, what has he actually ever done for you except for being in touch with you? Some people would do that just to kill time, let alone if they had something else on their mind.

Secondly, guys from more or less conservative societies or backgrounds tend to be very "romantic" in general. I said "romantic" because sometimes it's a true feeling and sometimes it is not, so I'm talking only about manner - a manner to say romantic things, etc. In a society that is or used to be conservative up until recently guys often believe they need to be "romantic" either to get the girl they love or to get what they want from a girl. Such a manner even becomes usual and common, almost a social norm in a particular society. Girls not being aware of that might consider it to be an individual characteristic of a guy and a sign of deep affection, while it is more of a collective landmark.

Finally, I might be wrong about this particular guy. But there's a final test that can't be wrong. If he gets angry for such a thing instead of being grateful and appreciating your efforts, then he was after your money. Simple as that.

Putting everything aside, you should just think about whether he acted in a respectful manner, in a way you deserve or not, was he considerate or selfish. When you told him about the money, was he only thinking and talking about the money he was supposed to get? Did he ask about you and your situation? Do I need to go on?

Ok, one more thing . You care about him, right? Imagine the situation was the other way around, switched positions, and see how you'd react. That should tell you a lot.

Leprechaun

You can look at the situation from different perspectives.

1- Yes it's a mistake that you promised the money before checking your finances.Which lead you to break a promise.

2-Turkish men are generally very sensitive on taking money from their partners/girlfriends that's why they consider that as the last resort.Thus he seems to be using your relationship for money.

3-If he really cares about you,he'd understand that although you broke a promise,that's because of unforeseen reasons.So he acting a little harsh on you.

4- It's his mistake and stupidity not to plan his payments and now he has to ask people for money.

And a last note, 1800 is not a very big amount, i'm sure he can summon it (through his family or friends) very easily.If i were you, i wouldn't trust this guy and be careful.

Rick K

A fool and her money are soon parted. You know the meaning, don't be a fool. If you have to pay for love, it is not love.

Turk-i

Turkish men are very commited usually. If its 9 months I DOUBT he is playing you. Turkish people are VERY big on promises... They take it very serious. When you brake a promise ;; its like the end of the world.

Helen K

a promise is a promise, you promise you do it, just don't do it next time, break up girl, he flipped out when you said you couldn't give the money, what does this say to you? answer is probably that hw as depending on your money, not getting a job, so leave himw, AFTER YOU GIVE THE him the money and he repays you... just please, be careful around this type of person

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