Should i accept my dad's offer or stay with my boy friend?

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Dr. Beemer

Hello Selin.

I agree with PINKY she had it short and right. You never know if you will stay with that person. But no matter how long passes your dad will always be your dad. First of all try not to lie to your dad. If you truly love him postpone Italy tell your dad the truth, and go with him some other time, its not the end of the world.

You will always have a second chance, don't ruin your trust with your dad or boyfriend.

No one here can understand your situation like you do. It is you who knows what is right to do. Follow your heart but don't lie to dad.

HOTTÃ¼rk

You should go to Italy or anywhere else every summer but having the house keys for 16 days would be a good chance for u to decide to continue your "rich-poor situated" relationship.

Enjoy him:)))

Pinky

Is ur BF more important than ur father?
Does ur BF worry about ur sake more than ur father?
Do u care about hurting ur BF or ur Father?

Believe me,no one in this earth cares about u more then ur own family,so never put anyone top of ur family's list!

Pinar

Considering your age, I understand that you feel like you are in the middle now. But after couple of years you will see that you can get any man you want with the talent and beauty you have. If there is even a small risk that he is after your money, go to Italy, enjoy yourself. If he is still there for you when you come back then contunie. But please please please don't forget that he is not the last, you are too young and you will one day find your man.

hanibal

Well,
After university exam ,
Do whatever you want.

Leprechaun

Believe me, you can't explain him without hurting.

You promised, it is not wise to break it,especially in a relationship,which all depends on trust.

Your choice.

And i suggest you to stop living in old Turkish movies,as if you are Filiz Akin and he's Ediz Hun. World is changing.Turkey is changing.That sharp peaks "the rich" "the poor" are not there anymore. At least not working like those movies anymore.

** Additional: My intention is not to make fun of you. I do believe, poor/rich thing is not an issue.If a person make a living with his/her earnings,i don't consider that poor.Every person want more.Greed is very human.

Totally Blunt

How can he propose that if he isn't going on a holiday you souldn't go either? I don't believe he would do the same for you, and even if he did, it is daft. It's just 16 days in a whole summer. The rule of the thumb is:

1. if he doesn't trust you for 16 days, he never will,
2. even if you made a promise, he should change his mind and be OK with your going. When you love somebody, you think of his/her own good, not your precious feelings.

You didn't say how old he is, but being an intern, he should be at least 23. Isn't it time to grow a little bit more mature? God, I HATE the childish jealousies of young people!

And last, if you are thinking of studying law because he did, think again. Law isn't as pretty as it seems on Ally McBeal. You either accept the sh*t and make big bucks, or be honest and earn next to nothing. I'm sure there are other branches that you would like to study. So, you will be stuck with a rich guy who has sold his soul to the devil, or you will end up poor.

Edit: But you SAID he can't take a summer holiday? If you take your boyfriend and you father suspects, be sure that you will undergo a BASKINNNNN and a family crisis will follow! Because, like Leprechaun said, this story has the making of an old Turkish film. 16 days isn't worth the risk. You will have forever later, when both of you are working and free from family restraints. So, my final advice is (and I'm giving it only because you posted this question; I know that a girl of your age keeps her own counsel) I say keep cool and be patient.

Irmak

Accept the offer.

Tell ur bf 'my dad wants like this.sorry'

I don't think he can say something to ur dad...

DejaVu

Do whatever you think is the right thing to do, listen to your heart, it will give you the answer...

MORTÄ°CÄ°A

agree with eli m and Bosphorus babe.

Since he is working that doesnt mean you have to give away your summer holiday.( you have not given any commitments to each other yet. ) You had a tough year with the Uni.exam so you need a break too. Besides it is only 16 days.
Even if you stay , he would be in the office allday and after working hours he would be too tired to do anything. ( Believe me I know )

And this would give you a good chance to know him better according to the way he reacts and afterwards.

So Ä± tell you get your air ticket and go.

istanbul bogazi

totally agree with bosphorusbabe and pinar.

Rockwell

Italy for sure. If you and your boyfriend are happy together and meant to be together at this stage in your life, then you will have plenty of time to spend with after the summer holiday. If it is your dream to stay in this place by yourself, then do this. You have to live for yourself. Do what makes you happy and your boyfrien dhould understand. If he does not understand, then maybe he is not right for you. You must value your father and respect his opinion on certain matters because he is your father. Yor dad wants what is right for you, even if you don't agree with how he feels at times. Follow you dreams and go after certain oppurtunities when they arise. Have fun in Italy!

Leonarda

Selin, youi must see what you really want.Italy is wonderful, it is my second homeland, yes, but how would you feel to go there alone?You will always think of him..
On the other hand if you do something against your familly s will you ll always have the stress..We both know how importnt is the family in our countries..
Just say tht you dont want now to go to Italy, or postpone it for later...During your absence, your boyfriend will feel bad, and this is not good for your relation iof you really love each other..
He ll think that you left him...
Try to be kind with your father, on thw other hand, your love also is important, and if he means a lot for you, dont lose him...

â™«ELIâ™«

dont be daft..... take the offer!

anlarm

When we are young, we tend to believe that 'our parents' do not understand anything about love and our feelings. As we grow older we begin to understand the feelings of our parents. I am a father of a girl now, so I guess I can understand your situation.
My dear Selin, I personally think you are a bit young to live with your boyfriend. I don't care about the rich/poor situation. He is going to be a lawyer (and get rich), that's good. But your dad is concerned about you and your feelings. He doesn't want you to get hurt. He loves you. Maybe you should think this over again. Your boyfriend should also try to understand your father. Ask him what he would do if he was a father and his daughter wanted to stay with her boyfriend.
By the way, when I was your age I used to fall in 'love' every 2-3 months :)))))) And each time I thought it was the real thing.

Do what ever you wanna do.... take him with you :))

ele

you should take the offer you'll be apart only for 2 weeks after all...he'll understand if he's a "sweet guy"+he's not "using you"... you may want to rething your relationship though...your father may know sth you don't...

Selena

I would go to Italy - it is only for 16 days - and if he loves you, he would let you go, otherwise I would have my serious doubts about him!

habisce

It is like a movie.However,if it was a movie,your dad would offer something to him to convince him to leave you.
I think real life version is much more funny.

Tiffany <3

go to italy and tell ur boyfriend to go on a different day and meet him there

Missy

i would take the offer
sorry for your boyfriend but italy is just wonderful
I'm going there too
btw where is your boyfriend from? You know in turkey people don't really see it correct to live with your boyfriend

Charmed

Yes Ä° think that you should accept your father's offer ! ; )

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