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Are women safe in Kerala?

I am going to Kerala with my girlfriend in next few days....either Kovallam or Poovar near Trivandrum. Is it safe for women in Kerala--in day time and in late evening? Also, is the train journey to Kerala in 3rd AC safe....am concerned as have heard kerala men are sex starved and they ogle and tease women (even in public places). What are the dos and donts while moving around with your woman in Kerala?
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I am Indian and still afraid, wonder how would foreigners feel!

    



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Crazy_Bebe
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Hello! I am a 25 year old British woman who has lived in Kerala and has visited Kovalam and Poovar regularly (every weekend). My advice is to have your girlfriend dress appropriately which is to cover up with t-shirts and linen trousers or something similar. Legs on show are oggled at and if your girlfriend wore a bikini she might expect a crowd of men watching her on the beach but this depends on where you go to swim. I wore a dress over my swimming costume so that I felt covered up. I dont like being oggled at so i took these measures, some women dont mind and so you often see tourists wearing what they like. I was with my husband which definately deterred men from lingering around. I felt perfectly safe in Kerala though. Infact, Ive travelled alot and I was pleasantly suprised how safe I did feel compared to alot of other places I've been to - eg: Italy!!!
My advice is be respectful and the lovely Keralan people we be respectful back. Like anywhere you get a few rough sorts but generally Keralans are polite, non confrontational, respectful people.
If you stick to the main tourist areas at night you will have no problem as there are lots of people about in the restaurants etc. We also used to walk from beach to beach at night (around 8pm) without problems. Just be sensible - dont flash your cash, be polite and carry your belongings in an over the shoulder zipped up bag or zip pockets.
I'm sure you'll have a great time - India is an amazing place, if you've never been before you'll have the biggest culture shock of your life - but thats a great thing for expanding your horizons and you'll come back feeling fantastic for doing so! Eat the fish too - check for a clear eye on the fish and point to the one you want so you know your getting what you pay for and you can guarantee fabulous quality at amazing prices - the crab too is excellent!
:) Have a lovely time!


Ronnie @ BinBrain.Com
Women not safe in Kerala.

Despite cent per cent literacy, achievements in the health sector and low infant mortality and fertility rates, violence against women is on the rise in Kerala .

The most common form of violence against women is physical, followed by psychological harassment, economic neglect and sexual abuse. It was done for the state Health Departmenton on gender-based violence in Kerala.

About 40 per cent of women interviewed admitted that they were victims of domestic violence.

About 11 per cent of mothers said they had been subjects of sexual abuse in their childhood and nearly 12 per cent of their daughters had also been victims of childhood sexual exploitation.

The respondents said most of them were victims of violence unleashed by their husbands and a sizeable number of women were injured badly enough to be rushed to the casuality wing in hospitals.

Alcoholism, suspicion, financial worries and dowry-related quarrels usually provided the spark for violence



Women were subjected to domestic violence regardless of their caste, religion, educational status, social and economic background, the study said.

There was no marked variation with regard to experience of violence in the previous one-year among the respondents between the three districts and "it may be inferred that incidence of violence is rising in other districts and that the trend is becoming fairly uniform in the state," the report said.

The report pointed out that the state's public health system was lacking in support services for survivors of domestic violence.


Having been subjected to dowry demand before and after marriage and having no say in matters related to contraception and sex emerged as factors most significantly associated with lifetime experience of violence.

An interesting aspect was that almost one-third of the women believed that a husband had a right to beat his wife. All the same, the majority believed that they had a right to react as well.

In the second week of November, newspapers in Kerala revealed a disturbing incident, which has since been haunting the public conscience. Neena (name changed), first year nursing student at the School of Medical Education (SME), Kottayam, sought police help to bring to book six third-year students of her college who, under the guise of ragging, raped her in the college laboratory and threatened to kill her if she revealed this.

The south Indian state of Kerala is no stranger to incidents of ragging, rape and violence against women. But this is the first known instance of rape as a form of ragging in the state. That too in a college laboratory, on a working day.

On October 21, the senior students gave the unsuspecting girl a laddu (sweetmeat), and she lost consciousness. The seniors then raped her. When she regained consciousness, Neena went to her hostel. Later, she went to the medical college, where the doctor admitted her to the psychiatry department, apparently in an effort to pass her off as mentally unstable and hence unreliable. She was given tablets that made her drowsy for days together. The doctor also asked Neena not to talk about the rape even to her parents.

When she could no longer bear the silence, Neena told her parents, who immediately approached K M Mariam, Principal of the college. But the principal, a distant relative of the main accused in the case, was emphatic that nothing could be done. Instead, the principal and K Muraleedharan Nair, Director of SME, offered the girl's parents, who are from an economically poor background, enough money to make her life "secure".

Crimes against women are occurring in Kerala with an alarming regularity. The Economic Review 2004 released in February 2005 by the Kerala government says that atrocities against women increased by 300 per cent from1991 to 2001.

Several sex racket cases, including those involving minor girls, have been unearthed in the recent past. In an investigation conducted by six women reporters of the Malayalam daily Malayala Manorama last year, it was found that women, whether working or otherwise, go through trauma and harassment at public places, while on train or bus, or when they relax at parks.

According to statistics compiled - through a media scan of newspaper reports , 117 women died of various types of violence in Kerala between November 2004 and October 2005. This included three girls aged below 10 and seven girls between 10-20 years, who were raped and killed. While domestic violence caused most deaths, rapes and other crimes nearly half the total number.

"Kerala has zero sexual literacy, and this is the main cause for such incidents," points out Leela Menon, a veteran journalist and social activist who has exposed several sex racket cases in the state. "Neena's revelation has taken the lid out of a big boiling pot. Despite our tall claims of high indices in areas of health, literacy and female education, the fact remains that sex is still discussed in hushed tones. This veil of secrecy perpetuates acts that are beyond human understanding."

As is true of other places in India and elsewhere, sexual harassment probes in Kerala are scuttled through political interference. The girl's family is 'advised' that her life would be doomed if the facts are common knowledge.

'Compensation' - in the form of money, house and the like - is offered. Many succumb to these pressures, but Neena's father V P Gopi did not. In an interview with a news channel, he said, "It is important for us that this is not repeated with anyone else, which is why we are going ahead with the case. Also, my daughter has to study further and leave these memories behind."

Neena has been a good student all through, and has approached the government to allow her to move to another college to pursue her studies. "I am not defeated or destroyed by this act. I will continue my studies, and my dream is to see that the guilty are punished," she said in an interview to a leading Malayalam daily.

"Fear of risking the reputation of the institution is a major impediment to reporting brutal ragging incidents in a college," says Sudha Balachandran, reader with St Teresa's College, Ernakulam. "Such cases are almost nil in colleges actively involved in student politics. The political affiliations of the students act as a deterrent," she explains.

The Kerala government had banned ragging in 1998. Those found guilty could be fined Rs 10,000 and face confinement of up to five years. They are also supposed to be dismissed from college, and denied admission in any other college for the next three years. But the law is toothless, says Leela Menon. "Even stringent laws become ineffective in the hands of politicians. In all the cases that I have investigated, political pressure is found to be the greatest force acting against law enforcement," she says.

The SME case has alarmed students and parents. Many students have come out in the open, revealing that their internal marks were affected by the teacher's attitude. While boys complain of enmity, girls suggest that they were asked for sexual favours in return for higher internal marks. "In many colleges, it is mandatory to appease your teacher, or your internal assessment score will be affected," says a student, on condition of anonymity. Neena strongly supports the demand for removal of internal assessment from the valuation system. There are many who face harassment due to misuse of the assessment system, she says.

"Craving for sex is a major factor behind atrocities against women in Kerala," opines Leela Menon. Explains Dr Seethalakshmi George, psychiatrist with Kusumagiri Mental Hospital, Kochi, "In Kerala, people are extra careful about sex. I have often found here that a woman talking to a man is easily interpreted as evidence of an affair, whereas in cities like Mumbai and Delhi healthy relationship with someone of the opposite sex is easily accepted." She says that there is a definite increase in the number of women who go to her for trauma counselling, and that this is an indication of increase in crimes against women.

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Pappan
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Actually it is not like that to worry. It is safe but if you exceed a limit in many ways, people may come over you that's it. In kerala people are more conscious about society and public life. so you too have to be more conscious about your dressings and behaviors at public places. Although you people are tourists, they will give you some considerations, but if you cross the limit by less dress, over show of love in public then they as well think they can also do something on you. It is as simple as that, you should not motivate or provoke people to do something.

Then the people in kerala are not at all starving sex. That is a wrong concept. but may be they could not had sex with foreigners. So in that case if you motivate them they may try.

Then while traveling in train you can book a private cabin in train which will be much safer than traveling in sleeper classes.

It is better to wear good dress which covers all your private parts without exposing to public.

Enjoy the greenery and beauty of kerala.

Please don't forget to inform me your experience in kerala.

Regards,


Matt G
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You'll have no problem in Kerala at all. I'm a frequent visitor to Trivandrum and Kovalam (I've been 4 times in 2008 already) and there have been no reports of problems with tourists at all.

You won't have any problems with Kerala men; they are friendly, so they may want to talk to you, but you'll not have any problems.

This is a beautiful part of India with so much to see. If you get the opportunity, go to Kovalam, Varkala and Alleppey to experience a backwater cruise.

You will need to ensure that women cover their shoulders when visiting any temples and palaces; it is important to respect local traditions.

You will find a lot of rain at this time of year though; the Monsoon is in Kerala right now!


Mary G
I'm sorry i've never been to Kerala but I did go to India in 2004 for a month. I was in Ahmedabad and the surrounding places and I never once wore shorts or bared my arms too much. I didn't carry a purse but a over the shoulder messenger bag with everything zippered inside. I would not advise being outside late at night---you'll witness a big difference in the atmosphere when the sun goes down, believe me.
Best advise is always be aware of your surroundings, especially behind you and don't aimlessly wander around.
During the daytime you're pretty much fine, but at night, it's a different story.


indiano
very good advice above, and very accurate. however, Kerala is a pretty literate state, and more decent than most other places in India.

even so, as per the previous answer, be careful after dark and be aware of your surroundings. Don't invite trouble by showing skin.


~~ Cool Manu ~~
off course safe and karela is very good and beautiful place.





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