Can an indian guy really change? (please answer only if yuo have personal experience with India or Indians)?

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Well you are right.. Indian men are brought up in a very traditional old fashioned way. Mostly all indians boys/girls hide their boy/girl friends from their parents! And even in this age majority of indians get married to one that their family/parents chose for them.
So if he didn't have enough courage to do it the first time, i doubt he'll leave his parents his country and com live with you.
Sorry.. but thats how i feel. If i were you, i wouldn't get involved any more.

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as per your first question "Can an indian guy really change? "....my answer would be why only indian ?? anyone could change according to circuimstances.. look.his problem is he cant open up with his parents ( generally most young indians dont:; particularly in these affairs). and as you said he is very connective to his parents, if his parents do accept you then it would be very fine to go on...but if they dont ...u better break up with him...chances are fair that he might change after accepting u without his parents acceptance....

Mohini

Being an Indian girl myself, I have first hand experience of Indian parent influence on relationships.

and I just want to put it out there that, Indians recieve very traditional upbringings because our parents just want the best future for us, and in their eyes they think that if they chose our life partner that it would make their children's lives better. not to mention, the parents were brought up this way too, so you cannot blame them.
however, because they are so strict for their child's improvement in life, they can be persuaded to adjust to different views if it shows that their child will be happier that way.
for example, when i told my parents i had a white bf, (i live in canada) they were disappointed, but the next day came to me and asked me to bring him to the house. and i did. he got gifts and they talked really well. so don't think it's hopeless, it's not!

and if he is willing to move to another country just for you, then I'm pretty sure he's going to firmly stay with you and his family will come around but it takes time. they were brought up like that for many years and it can't change in a matter of months.
and yes, indian men make good boyfriends, they're really committed. :)

good luck!

Avin

i'll tell you what...i'm an Indian guy born in south India and brought up in a sort of traditional way for a few years.. and my gf is from another caste too.. so i can relate a little to your problem... however.. my advise to you is.. if you both can get past the initial one year or so of marriage you'll be accepted into his family.. don't expect them to shower you with love though.

From what you said bout your bf... things will be tough for you.. guys who go from here to countries like the uk always change mostly for the better.. that's the side of them that the people there see.. however they tend to forget that on the other hand they are firmly tied down inside India and tend to be indecisive when it comes to matters like marriage.

An absolute first step for you should be to insist that he tell his folks about you if he wants to get back together with you.... maybe you can even try to get to know em.. they'll hate you for sure but hey maybe he's worth the effort.

all things said and done i rate the chances of his changing at a little above 20% if things go on this way. All this from a guy mind you ! lol all the best for your relationship.

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Whoa, That was Longgg !! x)
Anyways, maybe if he tries. I am an Indian girl - 13 - Lol. But I do know stuff ! Um...usually they NEVER change. I live outside India. Brought up outside India. I know how they think. They usually get big heads when they move to the UK - I am in Africa, btw.
They are scared of their parents.

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