Help plz wht shall i do...?

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Trillyp

You poor thing - it sounds like he is a bully and makes all the decisions! You need to think about how a different way of life will affect your children too.....if you really don't want to go, I'm sure social services or some other agency will be able to help

Dr. DeLight

Simple! Do not go with him.

CrazyToTheCore

Yeah, life is difficult ....you have pros n cons in both the situations.
do one thing... trust yourself, and take a decision, and stick to it.
You should not let anyone behave badly with you, be strong, stand up for yourself and your rights.

you can do one thing, tell your husband that you need a break, let him go to India alone, and tell him you will join him later.You stay with your parents for some time.
This will give you both space to explore what exactly you want from life.

Orla C

I think for the sake of your children, you need to think about this very carefully. They should see their father, but from the sound of him, he's more interested in his own future and not really theirs or yours.

The question is, would you and your kids be better off in India? I know he's your husband, and that has certain commitments to it for you - but for him too, and he seems to find it convenient to ignore this. My own feeling is that it would be better for you to let him go on his own, especially if you are concerned about his behaviour to you and your children.

mariolla oneill

talk to your parents and ask them if you can move in with them and send your hubby to hell if possible.
don't go through what i go most of the damn time
please make your mind up,you got to hold on to your own dreams,don't follow like a fool.so do it and dump him he is a selfish person,don't give a toss about you or your feeling's.
good luck and hope you can stand your ground without getting bullied by your hubby.

valda54

well if you parents live near you, they should back you up. p . off him and his parents. look to your children they are more important, life is better in england for yor children.. f.... your hubby off

m m

so sorry to hear about the crisis.

I see a couple of issues here. 1) r'ship with your husband. I think this should be sorted out before making any decision - whether staying back or leaving with your husband to India. Perhaps with a marriage counselor if he doesn't want to listen to your feelings. Or your parents if your husband respects their thoughts?

2) Not sure how old your children are. The older your kids are, the harder it is to get into the schools AND succeed in India. Need to consider the type of schools there - most schools require at least one Indian language! School systems are quite tough there. So the decision should be considering this aspect.

3) I can imagine you're probably overwhelmed with everything - business crisis, r'ship with husband, past issues, children's schools, house, etc... Please take time for yourself. Things will work out.. Hope for the best.

It maybe tough to do, but it does help me through things too - meditate - for clarity. just spend a quiet 5 minutes in the morning (if you can)..just for yourself. Sometimes, the best answers comes from yourself. Trust your instincts.

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