SURENDRANATH D
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Love means to share one's own being with somebody else.
Falling in love means you are going out of yourself to meet the other, to reach the other. You cannot remain in yourself, you will have to go out. Love is an outward journey so you cannot remain as centred as you are when you are not in any relationship. But nothing is wrong: sometimes to go off centre is perfectly beautiful.
To become too centred is also dangerous. To become too centred means to become too self-centred, and much ego can arise out of it. They always remain in their centre; they never go out, they don't need anybody. So great ego arises. Love is good to kill the ego.
Love means that you have opened the doors of your being; you have given the invitation.
To destroy your love means to live half-heartedly, and then naturally you will think of the past. You will remain past-oriented because there is no future. You know now you are not going to love anybody, so all that you can do is to go again into those memories and make them more and more painted and colourful. They may not have been as beautiful as you are thinking, but a hungry mind will paint them very colourful and very beautiful.
Love means that you a',low somebody to throw a bucket in you, to draw some energy from you. Don't be a miser about it, otherwise soon you will start feeling that you are drying up.
Love means the purest feeling, the purity of he heart -- not logic; logic leads you into the head. Love leads you into the heart
Love is really going out of your centre. Love means getting involved, love means getting lost, love means losing yourself in the other. Love means: forgetting yourself in the other, remembering the other so much that you are almost annihilated.
love means: you love a person -- the person becomes more important than you.
love means that you care for the person in health, in illness. You care for the person. When the person is loving -- and sometimes the person is not loving -- then too you care. You care for the person and you accept all summers and winters. You accept everything that is in the person. Health is there, illness is there, old age is going to be there, youth is there, anger is there, hatred is there -- everything is possible.
When you choose a person, you commit yourself to the person's totality. I'm not saying that you should celebrate her illness. I'm not saying that you should want her to remain ill, because that is a part of life. Try in every way to bring her back to health but don't be angry with her. If you want to be angry, be angry with the illness. Don't create any trouble for her in any way, and then she will come out of the illness sooner.
love means overflowing. If it means anything, it simply means giving yourself away, sharing, just like a cloud shares its water with the earth or a flower shares its fragrance with the winds.
love means giving freedom to the other so that the other is allowed her or his own space. Not to interfere in the other's being -- that's what love is. It is a delicate phenomenon. To give and yet not to interfere needs great sensitivity, needs very artful hands, because the moment we give, we immediately start possessing. We start demanding, we start hoping for something in return.
True love simply gives and never demands anything in return. Much comes in return, but that is another story; love has nothing to do with it. When it comes love is thankful; if it does not come there is no complaint. True love can never be frustrated; it is impossible to frustrate true love because if nothing comes in return, then too love is happy. It is happy because it has been allowed to share its joy. It is grateful because the other has allowed himself to be flowing, to be sharing. And if something comes in return, that is a reward... unexpected, undemanded -- hence that too has tremendous beauty.
Love means the art of being with others.
To fall in love means that something from the beyond has grasped you both, a bridge has happened. Your hearts have felt a rhythm.
Love means the state when one has melted. The ice is no more there -- it has become water, flowing. If you drop an ice cube into the ocean it will still remain separate unless it melts.
Love means a very pure quality of friendship where you don't want anything from the other, where you are simply happy because the other is... when the very presence of the other gives you happiness. Not that he does something to you or that he is a support, financial, physical, or that he is in some way a means to some joy. No, his very presence is enough.
When you start rejoicing in the presence of a person there is love. You don't want to use the person. The moment you start using the person, love has disappeared.
love means being totally with someone, so totally that the two-ness disappears and one-ness arises.
love means tremendous trust, so it does not plan. It moves like a cloud, wherever the winds take it; it has no programme, no expectations.
love means surrender, courage, because love really means dying into the other, courage, because love means dropping your own identity, your own ego, your own personality.
Love means completely forgetting yourself in the beloved. Its essence is forgetfulness, abandoning oneself, drowning oneself totally so that one is no more; only the beloved is. It is the path of annihilation, fana. The lover has to learn the art of dying, because only in death does the distance between the lover and the beloved disappear.
love means to be receptive to someone. Even in love we are aggressive. If you ask a friend, he will say love is nothing but a sort of violence, a mutual violence in which two partners have agreed to become involved. And when a friend says this, he is not just saying nonsense. He means it, and he knows something.
Whenever you are in a sexual act, whenever you are in intimate love, the actions that follow are just like fighting -- you are fighting. If you go deep in any act which we know as love, if you go deep in it, you will find animal roots. Kissing can become biting anytime. If you go on kissing, if it goes deep, it will be biting. It is just a mind form. Sometimes lovers will say, "I want to eat you" -- a very loving expression. Really, they try. Sometimes it goes deep, becomes intensive, then sex is just a fight.
So two partners, two sexual partners, will always alternate between love and fighting. In the evening they are fighting, in the night they are loving; in the morning they are fighting, in the evening they are loving; in the night they are fighting... This circle will go on -- fighting and loving, fighting and loving. If you ask D.H. Lawrence, he will say, "If you cannot fight with your lover, you cannot love." The fight makes it intense. It is just creating a situation.
The human mind as it is, as it has come out of the past, cannot love because it cannot be receptive. It can only be aggressive. So it is not that you are loving -- you always demand love. And even if you act loving, it is only to force the demand. There is a cunning logic. It is always demanding, "Give me love." And if I give you love, that is only to demand, to make the demand more forceful. The human mind cannot love.
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