Should i be completely truthful to my fiance about my ex?

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djmantx

Is there something to tell? is there something your not telling us? Because if its just the fact you had a boyfriend I'm sure he probably could guess that.Sure honesty is the best policy but that doesnt mean you have to reveal your whole life storey... so what is the question did you tell him you are a virgin and you are not? In that case yes tell him...but i dont know why you would feel the need to expalin an ex boyfrriend unless there is something special about it.

grannywinkie

Why should you think you will lose him? Everyone has had boyfriends at your age. He would have a bigger problem if he thought that you never dated. How about you? Do you want to know about his past? That is wrong. Enjoy what you have today. Do not look back you may lose what is here today.

Gyan Guru

You know one thing, you should be sincere to the one who is marrying you, bcoz he is not joking wiz your life. never hide anything, perhaps he also ,he has something about his past to tell you. Sincerity is the best thing in life after faith. Be sincere and tell him everything, it won't hurt, this will make you releive from a big burden . I wish you a very happy married life.

mystina777

Well, what good would it do? How would it change your relationship? I mean if it isn't going to affect it one way or the other, why bother in the first place? Why would you even bring him up at all if you don't like your ex and your fiance never asked? I have the feeling we're not getting the whole story here.

rajkkumar

Faster you tell yr fiance - better for you.

PS: Put it in a right ton / right place & right time - but do it fast.

Good luck.

Don't worry. Everything will happen for yr own good.

wintelena1

Well.. if you want to bring up this ex topic, then U should ask him tell his ex gf first. After he tell, then will give an opportunity to him to ask you back about your ex. If he no ask, you are lucky, he pass the question.

If he ask, then depend on the relation of you with your ex.
If no sexual intimacy happened in pass ex absolutely can tell. If your fiance ask about the sexual relation of pass, just said it's the first time, it hurt and it did not go well on the sexual stuff.

Well if you losing sleep becoz your fiance is not that type can accept you had an ex bf before.... that you must be pure. Then i said U better tell him so he can dump you now rather then divorce you later... Rite?

kentata

Honesty is the best (if not easiest) policy.

smile please

just tell him the truth if he asks, you have nothing to hide from him, if its really making you upset just talk to him, he'll understand

Organized chaos

It a BIG step telling your fiance about your past, but I feel you MUST.the past will definitely come up later in life,its better he finds out everything about you NOW, and he finds it out from YOU, and not someone else, ho might want to create problems between you.Just make sure you are over your boyfriend before you get married or the unresolved feelings will show up in your marriage. Why dont you suggest having an open talk with your fiance, where he tells you about his past, and you tell him about yours- we ALL have a past.Why not clear things out now-before it is too late to feel sorry or guilty.All the best.

bty

Let me tell you something. I have been very happily married for 24 years. Last year I discovered my very first serious girlfriend on the Internet. we were 16 years old back then and went out together for about 18 months. I met up with her and bought her lunch at a pub halfway between where we live. All with my wife's approval. Why?? It is called trust. I would suggest you don't make a big deal out of your college years relationships but if you are going to marry your fella, well, married people share. y'know??

spice_content

1st build dis guys trst,who knows he mst be havin hios own ex,js try becumin his friend ,good friend then slowly js say it tat u had a bf in ur college days,bt it did nt wrk n neways he is d only guy who u ever loved n stuff n wud want spend ur entire life wit coz u love him lotss..dnt wrry if he loves u he'll exept u if he dsnt exept its bst 4 u n ur future coz u need sumone who exepts every thin in ur life n loves u d way u r..luck girl,go head n tell him..life ddsnt ebd wit him remember,think ur self special..

Tony

I think it's totally irrelevant and might even be boring to him....yawn

dan536

I would hope that if you were getting married then you could be honest with your new bloke.

Is there any particular reason why you don't want to tell him about your ex??

If I were about to get married to someone, I would hope that finding out about an ex of theirs wouldn't affect the way I felt about them. Most people have ex's - and any sensible person will understand that's just the way life is.

I'd tell him, it shouldn't do any harm.

mikewolcott

I don't understand why your friends are advising you to tell your fiance about your college years - that is all in the past - has your fiance confided in you about his college years?

The past is the past - it is dead and buried - unless you have a child running around somewhere in the world and think that this child may wind up at your doorstep one day, then why tell your fiance about your past - esp. since he is not asking you - or is he?

Everyone has a past.

ilovecbale_megan

What is it going to do to your relationship? If this guy gets mad over that, what else do you think that he is going to get made over? I think you should just tell him, it shouldn't hurt anything, but if it does, this guy has some jealousy problems!

scarletts_hot

Yes, definitely!
You need to be honest with the person you'll be sharing the rest of your life with. And clearly, if they want to spend the rest of their life with you too (which, presumably, they do, since your're engaged) something that happened in the past shouldnt change that - they will love you and forgive you (if they even need to).

robertholmes_period1

just tell him. It should not matter to him.

oops1388

Yes, you must tell him. He is your fiance, you are planning to spend the rest of your life with him. No relationship can survive if it its built on secrecy and lies. If you can't be honest with him now, then you will never be honest with him. And if he loves you, he will accept you for what you are today and will not hate you for your past.

Nash

If he really loves you and by what you are saying is true then your present finace should and will accept you foir what you are or what you have done in the past!
If I were you, I would tell him the truth......

conundrum

yes,please do.If it comes out later it would be worse

Williamtong

Why don't you share it with your closely ladies? I think it may better than telling your fiance.

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