Should i marry girl from India ?

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She probably can have a much better chance of a good life in the UK. It is only natural that she would want to move if she is from a poor area, so don't blame her. A point to note is that she may be quite dependent on you if she moves to the UK. If she decides to come over, please help her to become as independent as possible; ie find own job, own car, own friends. You have a chance of a happy relationship if she becomes independent in the UK.

I would meet her in person and know her that way for a long time before even thinking about marriage. People are always different in person versus online. When you're talking to someone online, you really don't know what they are like because you can't tell the tone of their voice, you can't see their facial expressions when they're talking. How can you even be 100% certain that she's a woman from India in the first place. Have you met her yet?

I've heard stories about middle aged men pretending to be women online to ask for money and plane tickets from lonely guys.

lozdog9379

you probably shouldn't marry someone that you have only talked to on line. not the smartest idea.
she may be using you to come to the UK, but she also might actually want to marry you for you.
tough one.
I just wouldn't marry someone i have never met.

Digit

I'm of Indian origin and have travelled extensively throughout India.

Its unusual for girls from India normally to leave their familiar surroundings. Normally the Family is always involved in making Matrimonial decisions.

You need to visit her first find out first hand what shes really like and whether she can adapt to life in Scotland.

I cant comment too much if she is genuine or a fraud without knowing all the details. You can email me via my profile if you wish.

Ram D

You have only confidence with e-mail and that is not good, actually if you wish please come and discuss with her parents, lookout the background, civilisation and culture of that guy and take a decision, i think it is better to you dear freind

citricfuntoosh

Yeah u can but make sure u meet her before u plan to tie the knot.

asimboral

You can marry provided you donot ditch the girl latter

wywy

Have you even physically been together? Flirtatious chat is fun and all, but being around someone in reality is completely different. You could be completely incompatible once you started hanging out with her.

Also, she really wants to leave India and become a brit.

Away from Y!A

I wouldn't say she is trying to use you, because if she just wants to get to UK there are thousands of Indians settled there and her family can easily look for a suitable person of indian origin and get her married.

Someone here said she might be Muslim as she is from India :) muslims are a minority in India, the major religion there is Hindu and there are others too.. Christians, Sikh, Buddhists etc etc. And obviously all parents want their daughter to marry someone from the same religion and cast! So you will prbably have opposition from her parents!

I'm an Indian woman, me and my hubby met online (he is also indian) and though we felt this is the right person we didn't even talk about marriage until we met. We met a couple of times, our families met and then got married a year later.

Looking at my own past, i would say even though you met online, she might really like you, but its not good for both of you making any commitment even before seeing each other! I think you should visit India , Meet her spend some time with her and her family and then decide what you want to.

Even though you think she's smart and all... when you visit India you'll surely get cultural shock :)
and for Indians when you marry you just marry the person you marry the wholw family :D i mean there will be a lot of visiting parents/grand parents etc involved.
So first just go there for a week or so and check out the things there.. meet her to really see if your mental image matchs the real HER!

sweety sharma

meet her in person and just ask her clearly what she would do after cuming to uk. do not bring her if she does not want to do naything.
it would be wise if you ask her that she should find herself some work at uk.and possibly you might wait as she just wants to get into the country.

c t

She is using you to get into the USA

RTH

sounds crazy to me.

Disha S

Probably she want to use you. Just don't take any decision w/o getting sure of her intentions.

I suggest you to meet her in person and try to find out things about her. See if she belongs to a good family with moral values and ethics.
Check if she is very much career oriented or highly fascinated about the life in abroad................Then its really risky to marry her.

If you have any Indian friends you can ask them to help you. you can discuss them regarding your talks and relation, they can help you to understand Indian girl's mentality.

But if she really loves you then you are lucky to have love from a Indian cultured girl.

jcz777

Usually the rules are strict for the women of India. Are you both Muslim? Im assuming she is if thats where she's from & usually marriages are pre arranged by the parents. So it seems strange to me that her family would readily apporve of this unless you are both the same religion & they havent already promised her to someone else. If not & her parents approve of her marrying you? Then somethings not right with that picture & you should by all means proceed w/much caution. The only women from india ive met or known that came to settle abroad, did so because they were already promised to a muslim man who has already established himself abroad and can provide his wife w/a home & solid foundation. So if your not muslim and she is, most likely there's a secret plot at hand & your just setting yourself up to be used. . .

~Melissa~

she probably wants to get out of India. Most of those women will marry for this reason but stay married....odd for her to want to get married at such a young age be careful this may be a scam

andy195220022003

I am an Indian divorced guy and I would not marry an Indian woman ever.

Jodie L

yeah she probably wants to get out of that country ;

FoudaFaFa

online is an open field for deception You have no idea who is actually writing and what help they are getting to word the conversation in such a way to please the recepient.
Also the way you come across can be filtered by youso the girl rarely gets the whole picture and may be dissaponted and disgruntled.It's a huge folly not having the one on one face to face conversations and seeing the person in their natural habitat. You basically have no idea who she is and she has no idea who you really are. It's a FANTASY WORLD that cannot represent how you would really get on. Try meeting people in your own community-less exciting and fantasy - but much more likely to be the real thing. Join groups where people you see there might share commonalities,values, etc and participate in local activities. See them in action with their friends and family. Real life stuff leads to real life relationships that can stand the test of time. Hard work

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