Should i say yes to living with a hot, sexy irishman?

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Christine

yeah, sounds like a typical Irish man to me. Where are you from?

Just be careful, our men are great for the 'chat', they say all the right things and I see the women from overseas swoon, while they give us the wink, and then complain they didn't have to try so hard with 'yer wan from.........' . Us Irish women don't take them so seriously...(maybe thats our downfall). Also, Irish women are very independent, so he'll expect that from you.

Come back over for a holiday before making any longer terms plans. And good luck with whatever you decide.

Podge and Rodge Tribute Band

If he's a 'player' we'd give him a wide berth. Sher you can never be trusting those fellas. You'll always be wondering what he's up to.
Sher how many times did Bella tell Rita that he wouldn't be unfaithful to her in Fair City and the very next week he'd be up and down with the latest floozie?
Of course nowadays he's a changed man since he got the limp and the grey hair but he'd still jump on Mags Kelly if given half the chance....

emmies.eyes

I congratulate you for being honest with yourself and seeing the situation clearly.

Here's what I would consider---you're going to Ireland anyway, and since you've already had this relationship going, you will probably be spending all your spare time with him. Staying over and going out, etc. So, stay with him at first, to give you time to get your bearings and get organized, and save some money. Be firm and make it clear that it's a "trial run" and that if you aren't totally happy, you will get your own place but that doesn't have to mean you're breaking up, just that the time isn't right.

I don't think a leopard changes his spots so easily, so I suspect you are right about his motives. My first thought is that he wants to go to school but can't afford to do that and keep up an apartment & bills. So, if he could get someone to live with him to share (or carry) the burden, it solves his probelm. And if that someone will sleep with him, it's a bonus. Since you work different hours, you'll be out of the way when he's doing his thing, how convenient. Sorry to be cynical, but this feels familiar.

So, if you do this, it will help you both economically, and you'll get to see what's it's really like with this guy. It's hard to live with other people. Just be honest about your intention to move on if things are not working out--- follow your gut instinct and don't let the pillow talk mess with your head.

Misty Blue

Rent your own gaff and take your time with a relationship you are obviously a bit unsure about.If he's continues being a good boy till after Xmas reconsider the living arrangements.You need to get to know him properly before moving in.

Cheshire Princess

If you don't, can I?

Aunty Clare

Hi, if the rent is your primary concern, you're considering this move for the wrong reasons. Get your own place and get to know this guy before you jump. Yes I know it sounds boring and cautious and you want to have fun and all that, but seriously if you take my advice you can have it all. Lots of fun with a sexy man and none of the domestic niggles that get in the way and spoil things. Take time to really get to know him and move in together when you're sure he's the one. Hope this helps, good luck, Clare.

ianseru

laughing out loud.

Come on girl, get your own place.
You already said it...he's a player. If you wanna date him fine or sleep with him fine. Just don't put your living pad in his hands.

3 weeks ago I had a guy profess same for me. After a couple of dates i found him to be an irritable alcoholic. lol

What if he is a rapist, you don't know the guy. I can't believe everyone is telling you to do it. I must be the only one in my 30's here with experience.

aaahyeaaa

live with him most definitely, don't put your name to any rent contract or things until you've been there long enough to be sure, but most definitely give it a shot, and you never know he could be the one. ooh hot irish accent, a part of me is jealous!

KL87

I wouldnt say no to a hot irish guy ;)!

janus

Keep Him at Arms Length for a long While. Dont get to involved keep your Independence. Get your own Place even if it is a tiny Bedsit, make sure you are not Financially Linked to this Man. Remember there are Rats in every Country and this Fella might think you are His Meal Ticket, free Bed and Board. Go out with Him and all the Rest if you like. If he is Faithful and Genuine you will know eventually. Make a lot of Friends while you are in Ireland you may need them if things go bad for whatever Reason Financially or Otherwise, you may need a Bolt Hole to Run to or a loan for the Ticket back to the States.

Orla C

RUN!!!! RUN A MILE!!!!

Irish men are the worst ... I'm only saying this because I grew up with them. If he is younger than 30 you might still be able to train him, but if he's older than that, well ....

anita Y

yessssssssssssss

The Doug

I didn't read the bottom part, but from the initial question I don't see how there's any possible response other than, DEFINITELY.

After reading the stuff on the bottom, I have to say a little more. Initially, I was just thinking, "hot & sexy? do it for the sex!" But realistically, only do it if you are both very serious and considering long term (and engagement on shorter term). It's my opinion that if you can't get engaged to a person sometime soon, then there's no reason you should live together. If you are that important to each other, maybe you should change your hours.

greeneyes

Question is, do you listen to your inner voice, its telling you to be
cautious or, do you try, TRY you will probably regret it if you don't,
but remember try not to get hurt, I don't know about you but I don't
"do hurt " very well !

LadyMaui

It's always better to have your own place so when something drastic happens, you won't look like a lost wet puppy. If he loves you, he will respect your wishes and even adjust just to be able to be with you. Been to Ireland myself so I know renting a flat can be pricey but then, there's no place like having your own.

John

You tottaly should live with him

(use him)

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