I found my soulmate but she lives far away.?

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yankiwi

Kia Ora,

Wow, sounds like you have been busy.
It's really neat that you have found someone nice through the internet. Sometimes it happens that way.

I understand you are excited and motivated to expand this relationship, but the thing that worried me is the statement, "I decided to take a shot and try to date her."

So does this mean that you are 'just friends' currently?

I think you need to provide more information.

It sounds like you have found someone special, but you neglect to say what her feeling are towards you. Have you talked to her about moving to NZ? Does she want you to move? How serious is this relationship? It is reciprocal?

I don't want to sound mean, but if she doesn't feel the same about you then by moving to NZ you might appear to be overbearing.

For example, I wouldn't want some guy to move over here just to date me. That would put a lot of pressure on me.

It's a big step to move halfway around the world. I wouldn't want to be the cause of something like that.

What if it is only friendship? Then I would feel guilty for the time and money you spent to get here. I'd feel obliged to be nice and spend some time with you.

It sounds as if you should take things slowly. Maybe you should do as others suggested and come for a short visit.

Depending on your nationality, you can visit for 3 months (unless you are a British or Australian citizen).
Then, if things work out, you have all kinds of options. You can leave for a brief time and come back for another 3 months, or you could apply for residency. Do you have a degree or any skills that would enable you to get a job readily?

You need to first of all find out how this other person feels about you coming to NZ to visit her. As long as you are both interested in getting together, there shouldn't be a problem.

Good luck and let us know when you are arriving!
=)

Lucas

The airport would be the best way to enter the country. Yes it is possible for you to obtain a working holiday visa for up to 12 months. Depending on which country you live in now (as you have not stated) will determine the criteria for entering New Zealand.
To find out what you require please visit;
http://www.immigration.govt.nz/migrant/stream/work/workingholiday/
and scroll down and select the country you are currently living in.
It will say something like this "(country name) Working Holiday Scheme"
Click on the appropriate one and follow the requirements.

BTW; Congratulations and Good Luck. I hope I helped.

Cat Lover

Wow! You are thinking of making a big change in your life from only talking to someone on the internet??? You could be in for a huge disappointment. She may be all that she says she is, but-----she might not! Many people have been fooled.

You need to meet this woman and see what she is like. Take a vacation and go visit her. You have to realize that YOU might not be all she thinks you are either! If everything clicks with both of you, then you could start to think of moving there.

Good luck with this!

southwest

Is it possible that you just visit her and see how that is? It's a huge move just to date a person. Keep it as simple as possible unless you plan on going there to live regardless if things work out with her or not.
Here's a couple of websites about immigrating or working in New Zealand.
http://newzealandnow.info/us/?_cr=PPC%7CYahooUSA%7C2007-10-28
http://www.immigration.govt.nz/
Good Luck!! You sound like a romantic.

Katherine W

Have you met yet? I'd suggest you meet first before you plan to move. Could she save some money and meet you somewhere?

Alternatively, can you get a job somewhere together? Perhaps on a cruise ship?

Timothy C

I did the same thing...She lives in San Francisco, I live in Portland Oregon. She finally sent me some pix. She looks like a cros between LeBron James, and Barack Obama. Nightmare.

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