Is going to a strip club and fondling the girls consider cheating?

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furnace4bro

YOU KNOW IN YOUR HEART AND IN YOUR GUT WHAT IS RIGHT AND WHAT IS WRONG.
It's called having a concience! God gives you that, so you know better. If you "felt" it was cheating, then you already know the answer to this. Yes. You cheated. How would you feel if the role was reversed? If your lady had done the SAME THING? Would you feel as if she had cheated on you if she had, "just 'fondeled' a male stripper"? You KNOW you'd be totally heated about the entire thing! Granted, you did not have sex with anyone, but you know it was wrong. Take solice in the fact that you didn't screw another woman behind her back, and let this go. There really isn't a need to have to tell her anything...however, that doesn't give you the green light to EVER go and do that again! This is obviously a first offense. Everyone makes mistakes. I can tell from the way you speak that you feel bad, and I'm sure you love your girlfriend very much. If you tell her about this you risk losing her, unless she is understanding, and you explain to her that you will NEVER do this again, and that you felt creepy being there. The choice to tell her is ultimately yours. I could help you out more, if I knew more about her personality type. If it were ME, and my man did this...after hearing the story, I'd have to forgive him, but expect him not to EVER step foot into a strip club EVER again. I mean, come on, it's not like you're going to find a strip club where things happen that girlfriends would approve of, ANY where in the world. Take this as a learning experience, and move on.

MadforMAC

Your friends are idiots. I'd not only get better friends, but I'd also get a better hobby.

smarteepants

Put it this way...would YOU consider it cheating if your girl was fondling the Chippendales dancers?!!

cdf-rom

It's cheating whether anybody considers it cheating or not!

andy in greece

No. Don't worry. It's not cheating.

bbq

put it this way. would you want your girl going to a strip club and grabbing mens stuff ? if that's okay with you and her, then maybe it's not cheating as long as you both KNOW. But if you don't like that idea, you better believe it's cheating ! Do unto others, etc blah blah.

rmpbklyn

did you tell your girlfriend willingly? If you did not, it's because you felt guilty.

yogabbagabba

I think going to a strip club is sad and pathetic in general so I have no opinion on the matter.

hyland_jennifer

Yep, and if you still feel guilty than good, you should! If you allready had the commitment convo with her before you left than it's definatly cheating. If your still seeing her, then you have to tell her. If you do it again, your just scum!

spriege

yes hello you are touching other women.. playing around.. I would have left your behind, but first I would have done the same and then leave

m_j_stewart

Ummm, I'm pretty sure that it is cheating..

The question you have to ask yourself is this...
If your girlfriend did it to you, would you be mad?

L.A confidential

No only if you mess with them in bed

pdj1967

uuhhh yeah

Affections in a relationship are assets. If you share those assets with other than your significant other, yes you are cheating. Keeping your affections, touches, etc, is what makes your relationship special. Would you want her to share with another man what you covet? Why do men do this stuff and then ask if this is cheating?

Mary Beth

your the only one that knows if you cheated

mommy_2_little_man

If you are not kissing or having sex I would say that you aren't cheating. But everyone has their own point of wiew. Your GF may feel differently though. If she doesn't find out then I guess its okay.

code_red

Hell no. Do it again!

smurf_flinger817

if your woman went to a peeler and was groping guys all night .. would you think she cheated??

masscomm222

no you are not!

shywoman

I myself would call that CHEATING!

idontwannabefound2nite

It's considered cheating if you did anything that you wouldn't have done had she been there beside you......

TODSHISHLER

How would you feel about your partner doing the same thing?
Would it be cheating?

Is it cheating if you have intercourse with a women who's name you don't even know, you will never see again and do not even care about?

Would that have happened if the stripper was willing?

mitchellaneous43

I'm afraid it is cheating.

obscuremagic

i think it is. i would be mad if my boyfriend did that.
but i guess its up to what YOU think. dont listen to your friends, go with how you feel. you kind of answered your own question already.