What should I do to fit in the crowd in middle school, high school and college?

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Agnostic Canadian

There is no "crowd" in college. We are too mature and grown up to care about who's cool or not. We have more important things to care about, like our grades and careers. Not to mention grad school and how to pay tuition.

But forget fitting in. Just be yourself. You're a human, not a robot.

mr_trickypants

Seriously... be an individual. Be strong minded and think for yourself. Who cares? Really. Do what you want, when you want, and if people don't like you for it, then guess what? You don't need them. The best part is... People like independent people. How many people do you see wearing A&F, American Eagle, or some other stupid self-promoting clothing saying the new catch-phrase from the new "Not-another-teen-movie"? It's time for people to wake up and stop caring about what will make them cool. People who blend in are never remembered, and the only thing that is remembered is the fad they were a part of.

â™¥heartbrokenâ™¥

hey i'm in high school and i figured out that the best way to fit in the crowd is to be yourself. i'm not kidding, i've noticed then when i act all phony and try to be someone else, that just turns people away. but when i try to be myself, i gain more and more friends. just act the way you normally act, and if they don't like you for who you are, better go find new friends. bottom line is, be yourself.

Liberty against the NWO

dont try to fit in, just be friendly and smiley...the really cool folks should find you.

Fitting in. what a terrible thought. I bet that every one that answers this has something to say about just being yourself. well, that is true, you're probably a really cool person. I have work with kids and once was one and there are a few things that are important.
-make sure you are clean i.e.- keep your hair and body clean, no body wants to be known as the stinky kid in school. This is very important when you enter puberty because you start to sweat and if you are a girl you will be starting your period and you need to take special care. Boys.same thing make sure you brush your teeth every morning. I know so many kids that didn't want to take the time to look good and nobldy wants to talk to someone with stinky breath.
-dress to make you feel comfortable, you always feel more at ease when you look good.
-Do not try to be the life of the party. most of the time the loudest and kids who are always showing off are not always looked at as the person people want to hang out with. People really do not like people that drink to excess or use drugs to excess. It takes about one drunk night to give you a name. If this does happen take measures to apologize to every one involved and get help if needed. Self medicating to relax and fit in usally backfires in your face.
-join clubs, play sports, music, politics etc The more places you are the more people you'll meet.
-don't ever think that anybody is better than you. There not and if the truth was known they probably know it.
-get good grades
find one good friend or if in college maybe your roommate and form a friendship. It's easier sometimes to meet and greet with two. There is a lot of other things you can do but, most of all have FUN.

The Fred

In College, there is no problem - you'll automatically find your own crowd and there is no peer pressure to "fit in".

But before college....
- Dress to fit in. Don't have any nasty habits (not taking enuf baths, chewing tobacco :-), ... you know what I mean.
- Be interested in other people!!! Faking it doesn't count. Learn to be fascinated in the kids and their lives and problems. Asking sympatheic questions is a great way to make good contacts with your peers.
- Be kind, caring, and sympathetic to everyone all the time. Being catty, gossipy, etc. may make you feel part of the crowd for a few moments, but it will open you up for return zingers and other problems when the focus is you sometime in the future.
- Try to develop a sense of humor.

my_son_wants_to_know

OKay, understand that if you are stressed out then these people are NOT WORTH fitting in with! Just work on YOU, figure out who YOU are, what your skills are, and be confident. Confidence is the key. Don't try too hard. People see right through that. Don't be afraid to try new things, new styles, new music, but don't force it.

Gypsy

lets see you could pierce your ears all up and get your belly button pierced ,dye your hair black oh get some preppy oxford shirts ,thats a big age difference to ask .You really coudnt fit in if your were really middle school you would already know that .

betitodetroit

To hell with those a holes! Who cares if they think you are cool or not. The important thing is. do you think you are cool. NEVER EVER do something to try to impress somebody else, if they dont like you as you are, to hell with them

cmsmith114

First of all being fake is not going to get you any where. You are going to have to be yourself and people are going to have to like you for you. There is no point in trying to be like everyone else.

The Amazing Humdinger

act yourself, but not to the extent that nobody can relate to you. Be friendly and inclusive

M_Blue

Be nice, genuine, and listen to people. Take interest in activities outside your classroom.

Sarah

Well how old are you now? I think the best thing you can do is be yourself. Be out going people like when you talk to them. I know some girls go through a stage of when they think they are better then you or they can be very mean, but you should skip this stage. Dont worry so much of what other people think, people who worry to much about it end up not being fun to hang around. Just get to know people, get involved in sports, or clubs thats the best way to make friends. After high school there is no such thing as the "in crowd" so dont make it a mission to be cool with these people just hang out with who you like and who you feel comfortable with :)

blake_rollo

drugs.

Brown nose, suck up to people

aaaah

stuff ur bra and sleep with everyone

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