Are there Vietnamese girls with old western guys? Did you see that in Vietnam?

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cbmaclean

I am 56 now and was 46 when in Vietnam for a 3 week vacation, mainly in Ho Chi Minh City (Saigon). My Canadian freind was 52 and his Vietnamese wife was about 24 then. But at that time I did not encounter many couples as this describes. For one thing, it was against the law for me to bring a lady back to my hotel room after 8PM. The hotels strictly enforce this rule. I did spend the night with a Vietnamese lady of obvious sleazy character in DaNang, but she was also very afraid as she lived within sight of a police station.

On trips to Thailand in 1985 and 3 trips to the Philippines in 2001 and 2003, it was much more common to see mixed couples (old white guys and young asian women). Security and money are a big part of it for sure and they will be able to support their family with the help of the man, but they genuinely like to be with a more mature man with life experiences. Also, foreign white guys like me are more likely to be faithful to them than their local male counterparts. We are so happy and feel damned lucky to be with a gorgeous asian lady, its more than likely we won't take them for granted. Lots of people talk about going to the Orient but actually very few do. There are very few tourists that travel to the Philippines and Filipinos are curious to know foreigners. We are a real novelty there.

But to answer your question. Many young pretty Vietnamese women approached me with pictures and showing me they wanted to marry me, but the language barrier was just too much for me. I did not see couples in Vietnam like in the Philippines or Thailand.

juology

money, security, a way out, love, experience, respect, being taken care of, having someone to take care of, passport,
any of the above.

Izzy_Cool

Ok, to begin with, in Asia, age differences are not as stigmatizing as in the West. Therefore, you find a LOT of young girls with older guys. They find the older men to be:

1. More respected
2. Financially secure
3. Less likely to get drunk and beat them
4. More family oriented
5. More likely to die early and leave them all the money and the house.

Having lived in Thailand for 10 years (and have a son there) I can tell you that most of the girls with older Western husbands are former bar girls or girls from very low income families. Therefore, they do whatever they need to do to get ahead. Nothing wrong with that and if you think otherwise, perhaps you should spend time in their shoes and see how fast your attitude changes when you're starving.

Also, many Thai husbands FROM THE VILLAGES (not educated guys from the cities) think nothing of drinking and gambling all night and using the wife's paycheck to buy a motorcycle for themselves. Wanna know why there are so many unwed mothers in Thailand? BINGO.

Vietnam is different in that most of the girls with older guys come from good families and have university degrees. Remember, older people are RESPECTED here.

Now, having said that, I am 50 years old, my wife is 37 and my daughter is 4 years old. In the West, people would be asking me if that is my granddaughter and I would be remarking on their stupidity.

The funny thing is I still get chased by 20 year old secretaries. Its quite flattering and boosts the ego a bit. Of course, my wife gets really pissed off, but what the hell. Looking ain't cheating.

I have friends 10 years older than me with wives younger than mine and also have 4 year old kids. Guess what? Nobody bats an eyelash at it.

So, to answer your question, What the girls are thinking in Vietnam is something you cannot obviously comprehend.

Older guys are more respectable and more stable. Besides, now that we have Viagra, we have an advantage over the younger guys. They might have youthful energy, but WE have experience and refined technique :).

sole_hn

I think that we can see girls with old western guys anywhere not only in Thailand, the Philippines, ...and not except in Vietnam. And, there are many different reasons that girls go with old western guys such as : financial reason, money sponsor, different experiences, love,...but in my opinion, the main reason is money.

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^ lol, the guy above pretty much said everything right (in my opinion).
It's mainy money or maybe they were forced to be with them by their parents who might of sold her for money (i think this happens in India too, but probably stopped ages ago).

I doubt any of them would be with them for love. They know better than that (i guess..)~

But i remember i went to Vietnam and, i haven't seen any. Probably i was just too young. But i'm Vietnamese myself, and i don't know anyone who does that.

Tony J

You don't see it near as much in Viet Nam and it's strictly a money thing. Women in all those countries would rather be with someone they're own age and race.

Many times the woman is the person who ultimately wins in these situations. They trick the guy into thinking they are in love with them, take the mans money, and leave. An old, desperate man, who doesn't know the language or culture is easy to take advantage of... if you want to call it that.

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